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We’re in our early 30’s. Dated for a few months but we broke up because of certain issues. Yet we’re still mates and in contact. However, my question is he told me if he was single he wouldn’t hesitate to live with me. when I asked him was it just for sex all this time because we did date and we were friends before dating and we’re still friends getting to the point now, anyhow when I asked him was it all just for sex he said no no no no, even you know that that’s not true so what does all this mean when an ex bf says I won’t hesitate to live with you if I was single?? It’s not about sex even you know that it’s not true meaning?? What did he exactly mean? I feel that he still loves me otherwise he wouldn’t say such things like won’t hesitate and all. I hope I’m not being paranoid as I just wish to know.....Thank you
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When did you know he wasn't single, before you dated or some time after? If you knew, then hon, this tangled mess and him having to tell half truths or make up stuff so you don't get angry at him is what comes with the package of being the mans second lover. In ages ago, only the rich had mistresses and wives and it was an accepted thing and those women were taken care of. But in todays time, a man doesn't have enough resources to fully take care of you and a girlfriend/wife. I wouldn't trust any words from a man who would cheat on the first lady in his life. For all you know, he is totally making up the 'I won’t hesitate to live with you if I was single' thing. It's very possible he is saying the very things he thinks you'd want to hear to keep you satisfied to still be with him in this configuration. Right now, I'd say that when he said "no no no no, even you know..." that he used so many No's because his mind needed time to come up with words to lead you to believe its not all about sex as you asked. He didn't give a real answer but tossed it back at you as you should know this. That is to make you feel guilty for asking so you no longer ask or try to dig too deep. If you'd rather remain his number two and be just his sex partner, then you don't have to do anything different. Stop worrying about interpreting what he says because you probably can't trust what he says anyways. Just turn a blind eye and keep enjoying what you have if you still want this.
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