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He told me he and his girlfriend are going to end up together in the future with so sure. They already have a small kid and they live together. I told him you two are going to split up one day and it’s just a matter of time but you’ll see and that time you’ll think of me and he replied I’ll always think of you. We’re two exes. He just is very assured that they’ll never split up ever ever and when I told him you’ll split up, he didn’t seem to like it so what is it? Are men normally this sure or is he trying to tell me he’s over me or telling me to go start dating? He does know I still love him and not quite over him. We’re both Scorpios. Life and relationships are not easy. Does he wants to stay with her forever? What does he mean?
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I can't get inside his head to tell you for sure what he means. All I can do is share things I know from experience.
Can a person know for sure that they will stay together forever when they first meet? Yes its possible but so many people don't really know this lacking some critical information about relattionship and compatibility in the first place. So most people are just using positive word energy to make it happen as they hope. Unfortunately, all the positive thinking and statements in the world will not make you able to mix a glass on water and oil to stay that way (mixed together forever). Eventually the two ingrediants will separate.
I don't know what you see, or think you see in the relationship to know as surely as he, a totally different scenerio and ending to the relationship.
YOu state you are an ex. Humans again all act a certain way when it comes to exes. If both are very mature souls and both have come to realize that they have both changed over the years and now no longer follow the same goals and paths and now have very little in common, these people split up but on friendly terms and wish the best for their exes as they find new partners to continue the journey of life with.
If it was a toxic relationship, and you do not see the kind of change needed in him to avoid experiencing the same with his current lady due to relationship destroying practices of his own, then you may know for pretty certain that the end result will be the same, another breakup. But saying that to someone who isn't willing to accept they may be part of the trouble is just a waste of breath and accomplishes nothing. My ex was verbally abusive to me. The children now adults have seem him get into one relationship after another and tell me they hate to see another woman getting hurt by him. The woman are all nice people and I have met them all. However, my kids agree they see no improvement to Dads character so he keeps repeating his mistakes. The woman he gets with are where I used to be. However I woke up and saw the truth and realized it was time for me to leave. These women do not see the truth yet. I can't make them see it but telling them and warning them. IT is by going through the experiences or another way its called, The school of hard knocks, that we learn. Hard knocks is exactly what you may think it is, hardships, not treated fair, dumped on, abused, treated like a door mat, etc..... By the way, I am a Scorpio and can tell you that what I had to learn had nothing to do with my Sun sign. I had to get to a point of loving myself enough to no longer be willing to allow anyone to treat me like that again. He wasn't changing after 3 decades together so the solution was for me to leave the bad situation.
I felt badly for him and told him we'd got to a point where the remainder of what we as individual souls needed to learn in this lifetime could not happen if we remained together. I wished him the best and I left him. I had no hard feelings and had forgiven him for whatever he'd done to me over and over. I feel no hatred for him or wanting to doom him to having a string of bad relationships after me. I would rather that he also as a soul learned and improved himself in some way, however small it may be but to date, that has not
happened.
It sounds like maybe you are not over him and feeling resentment simply by your choice of words like " I told him you two are going to split up one day and it’s just a matter of time but you’ll see and that time you’ll think of me"
Having a person of a past relationship enter ones thoughts from time to time is a logical response, so its no surprise that men tending to be more logical than women in thinking replied with 'I'll always think of you. I believe he is not attaching any negative emotions to those thoughts, however I am wondering exactly what you are expecting him to think....like sadness, regret that he left you? You may not have looked deep enough inside yourself to realize exactly what was fueling the things you said. It may feel too hurtful to truly take the chance to look deeper and discover whats really eating you. Being a Scorpio myself, I know that one of our traits is being a jealous type. I decided long ago to not let any of the negative traits hold me down and to just give up and accept those traits and go with the flow and be jealous and vindictive all the time. Do I never feel jealous or wanting to sting someone with my words? Sure, it happens all the time. However I always choose to take the higher path, something I challenge you to do. I know Scorpios tend to be very sexual creatures too. We need an outlet for that energy which you now lack with him in a new relationship which I am going to guess he broke up with you and went to her.
Relationships being on again and off again are not the way its supposed to go. Its nothing like deciding in the morning what outfit to wear today and what colored socks and changing it the next day. Yes, it still a choice but a relationship isn't something that can go from on to off to on again, just because we wish it so.
Happily ever after only happens when both parties put in maximum effort to make it so. ANd thats based on two who actually have enough in common to begin with. A relationship is work, not all fun and games and easy. Its easier if you have the right person. Not knowing what the reasons for your breakup, I can't address that dear.
But I am pretty sure he only sees you as a friend or maybe an acquaintance, not that we wants to get together with you.
When you psychically predicted his relationship was going to end for sure, were you hoping he would say, "Oh, really? We're going to break up? Well in that case, if that's going to be the end result, I may as well make it happen sooner and go back to you."
If anything sounds like a fairy tale, that logic does. Life isn't fair hon, and it rarely turns out as wonderful and works as easily as you see on TV or read in romance novels. Those are so rare indeed that it's more like one in thousands if even that. I understand you are dealing with feelings of love still but do not let those feelings of love cloud your judgement. Thats all I'm really asking here. I am not against you or trying to make you angry or feel bad about yourself. I have enough experience personally in relationships and am nearly 60, so I truly do know what it is like having experienced a great lot of most possibilities in relationships myself. My only strike against me was making decisions to enter relationships that were not good, or wanting them back when I still lacked life experience to know any better. You did write in so I am assuming you want to get some perspective through the life experiences of someone older than you.
I also know what it feels like to still feel love for a guy who left me for another woman. I no longer feel the sadness and loss. But I did for months where it seemed my heart rate was up from the moment I woke til when I went to sleep, the loss making it feel like adrenalin was constantly pumping. He was like the ultimate man for me, everything wonderful and nice and he treated me good. SO yeah, it hit me hard. However we have no control over what choices others make that affect us. All we can do is exercise what control we do have to make personal changes and I decided I hated the way I felt, it wasn't healthy either cus I had trouble sleeping as well and so I decided I would cherish the memories of when we were together but learn to get over him and trust God to send along the right man for me.
I am so glad I didn't spend a good chunk of time pining for him. I was using everything I knew about the do's and don'ts of relationships to keep my eyes pealed for the right guy.
I did not want my guy back even if I still felt love after he left. I might be happy if he returned but because he did leave me once, whats to say he wouldn't do it again. Living my life always worried and second guessing his moves or motives all the time was also not health and I wasn't going to put myself in that situation. If he wanted to come back, my heart might have jumped for joy but my rational logical mind would have said no for the reason I just mentioned.
So I am saying a person can't make a mistake and then undo it? They can try but nothing will ever be exactly like it was before. In the memory of the partner is the way they were treated. Trust takes longer to re-establish after once broken. So trust may have been a great challenge to find again after that.
Now I am glad I didn't try using guilt trips or any of the tactics Scorpios are so good at to get their way. I didn't want to force the issue, I wanted a man who wanted me as much as I wanted him if not more than I did. I am glad I made that choice because a year and 10 months later, I met the man I would marry. If I compare the two, I now know I would have been settling for less if I fought for keeping or getting back the other guy. My husband is way better than anything else I could ever have imagined. We had financial struggles and medical things come up. Life isn't without hardships, but we at least have each other and what we have is something money can't buy and what all people truly seek, a person who loves them not only when they are at their best but their worst, and by that I don't mean fighting but when you're sick or upset and crying, etc, and he still find you're the most beautiful woman in the world to him (and I am no model type) and he is quick to change anything in his behavior if something even minor makes me upset or cry. He feels so badly thinking he may have caused me to cry and there are two instances when it happened and he changed immediately to never repeat it ever, never. Now that is true love. NOt trying to brag dear, I am just saying that right now, you may not know that there is someone for you that you just can't imagine being even a better match than the guy you lost. Neither did I. I just hope you can lay your hopes for getting back together to rest where they should be and actively seek a man who is perfect for you. If at all curious, I will send you a document on how to find Mr. Right, if you write me and ask for it but you must write to me from my column not the spot for putting comments on my response. I really do wish to help you more but that would be the next step. It is something God spoke to me, telling me to do but I ignored it, thinking it wasn't that important. Finally after being reminded over and over, I used it and thats what helped me find my husband, even though I used internet dating sites to find him. I know I would not have met him otherwise. There are wise ways to go about it if you choose to do so also. I can give pointers there along the way including give my impression of a guy from what he writes to you online. I wish you the best dear.
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