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do scorpio men stay in touch after breaking up with the girl?
Hi ya,
please do not judge me or anything and if you don't believe in a horoscope no need to answer. we're mates before we dated for a few months and we're both in our 30's but he broke up with me but insists we will always be friends and we still chat in and message. as for a scorpio guy i heard that they don't like staying in touch with the exes. but he's october scorpio and i myself a november scorpio lass. i still feel he cares and we still say, 'i love you' when he pops in to see me but because he was stressed as he thought and said i was too clingy plus he did say just go with the flow but i never listened to him. he's a single father so guys what would you say? he has a 2 year old son with his ex but i still feel like one day he wants me back because otherwise why would a scorpio wants to stay in contact after all? i'm sorry i hope i didn't sound too lame. thanks
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Scorpios tend to be very intense in how they approach things in life no matter what sex they are. I am one and have known family and extended family who are Scorpios. I believe that it is due to being so intense that two Scorpios don't always do well together. One has to be mature and evolved enough as a soul to overcome and always make better choices on what our weak spots are which to me would be Scorpios tend to be jealous and quick to speak sharp words to someone or being vindictive, thats the scorpio sting tendency. Of I've felt it, but I choose not to treat people like that. Meeting me, you wouldn't think I was a Scorpio but I am, born on the 15th.
What you are concerned about is not liking to stay in touch with exes. I don't see that as a trait that belongs to any particular astrological sign but a trait of all humans. Let me explain, most people when breaking up if one is still interested in the other, will find they feel awkward as friends with the one knowing the other still has feelings and can see it on their face even if they aren't making any moves. Often, men will say that they can remain friends. This is part of a male trait of trying to let a girl down easy so she isn't too upset. THere are other similar ways men do this and It happened to me when I dated an older man after a divorce and his ex came back wanting to get back together and he wanted to give it a try too with counseling however he was in love with both of us he realized. He made the choice to go back with her but for weeks instead of telling me, He acted very distant, hoping I would feel he lost interest and believe that was the reason once he told me. Guys don't realize that when they do strange things like this to protect our feelings, that it doesn;t work. I actually felt worse and when I cornered him and asked what was up and how distant he seemed, he broke down crying and told me what was up. I understood he had kids with his ex wife and they probably should have originally gone for counseling while married instead of going to that point and him dating me.
You have to decide if he is covering up and trying to make the dating break up easier on you or not. He may be the one with issues. Guys can have commitment issues and get gun shy when a relationship with a gal gets past a certain amount of seriousness, whatever that limit is for each guy. That happened to me too. One guy felt we got serious too quickly, that things happened too easily in our relationship and it scared him and he asked for some time off to think about it.
If he has a child, then he was in another relationship. I'd be curious to find out exactly why that one did not work. Otherwise, if he's the one with issues, there will be a string of other ladies he dates and breaks up with after you. All of this is not something I would pin on any particular astrological sun sign. The traits on sun signs can become modified or canceled out due to other signs like your rising moon or whatever. I remarried and my husband is the one who is pretty good at astrology. When we first talked on the phone after meeting on internet, his first question was what sign I was. I only knew attributes of sun signs. Based on that only, A Scorpio and a Capricorn are not really two that mix well in a relationship. Initially he was disappointed until he got my facts, and looked up everything about me and what house I was currently in and knowing himself as well, he found that even though we weren't meant to do well together, that two things were in our favor. Both of us are old souls who have matured enough to choose to resist our worst traits and make good decisions with each other. The other is that whatever each one of us is experiencing depending on how the planets are aligned at any particular time, is the exact same house, we're both in the house of service and when one of us gets to the middle of the experience, the other is just starting. So our lesson to learn and experience on earth are the same so we are able to be very supportive to each other on those lessons that are the harder or difficult ones. So, who knows, maybe the two of you could work out as a couple. But you didn't share or maybe you don't know the true reason's why he broke up with you. If he isn't willing to work through the harder parts of a relationship, and take the easier route of avoiding the harder things and breaking up, thats what I'd be more interested in hearing.
I get the feeling he doesn't know how to communicate well, cus saying you're clingy and go with the flow are simply words that describe something. Words can have different meaning for different people. If he never went into detail and gave you any clear examples of what he found to be issues with you, then its still a mystery and no one can give you any idea of why he broke up and why he still wants to see you.
Think about this for a minute.I'll use myself as an example. I am outgoing and very chatty. If my bf didn't like how much I talk and he decided to break up with me because he's more quiet and it drvies him nuts when I talk so much, then how is him breaking up but being just my friend, going to make me change, or make me more tolerable to him. He still doesnt like chatty people. So why would he even choose to want to remain my friend?
Do you see what I am trying to explain. Whatever traits he didn't like in you would be enough reason for him to break it off completely and not want to remain in touch and be friends. So either he is Lying when he gives you supposed reasons that he isn't willing to be in a dating romantic relationship with you or he is the one with issues but saying you are, so that you won't look too closely at what it is that he really has a problem with. I don't know either of you and could be wrong but I am feeling theres' more to this than you know about. Until you learn what his issues are, you won't understand the dynamics going on here.
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