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So you answered my question on “is he ready or not” and we’ve had discussions and we don’t want to have sex like just makeout maybe oral. I get tested monthly and have all of the safety percaussions, but like idk I get what your saying with the fact that there are many possibilities but the thing with asking him is like I don’t want to put him on the spot or put him in awkward situation. I know he trusts me because we have talked about personal stuff Many times before a lot, and he definitely doesn’t have “problems” down there. Last time I was on his lap And grinding and I definitely felt something big building and when he’s on top and we’re dry humping I can most definitely feel it. Ik it’s not about control because we’ve been in the pool / hot tub half naked and nothing really happened like of course kissing and grinding and he licked my breasts or whatever but like he’s always been able to stop when it goes to far no matter the situation. It’s just when I touch his thigh he freeZes or when it comes close to him like actually like acknowledging it , he just freezes irdk
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irdk either. Since it's not about him unable to get it up or he doesn't mind the contact of grinding against him, its as baffling to me as you. The only thing left I can think about is that he has a problem with lasting long and at the lightest touch by hand, he ejaculates. Pre-mature ejaculation is embarrassing to guys, especially when it will interfere with them being able to please a lady. I would think that just the contact of grinding is enough to make him come if thats the issue but our minds play a big part in sex. If he masturbates often or a lot, it could be he is so programmed to respond to his own hand that he fears if yours gets anywhere near him, he might come.
Other than that, I can't think of anything. And since that is a hard subject to bring up with a bf, you probably aren't going to know. I don't know how long you are willing to go along with things as they are. Perhaps it could get to 8 months or a year and nothing else yet. At that point you might ask, "I know I would like more from sex. So I need to know if you would too and if there are any concerns you want to address before hand, like birth control, or whatever" This would be his chance to come clean and share with you whats going on. If he doesn't, then you must be okay with never having more than you have or ending the relationship and moving on.
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