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can a guy love two girls at the same time and loves really both of the girls? why? what's he thinking? is it really possible and what to do in such situation? break up with him? could anyone eplain?
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You don't state your age and thats important here.
If young teens or early twenties, people are still trying to figure out what Mr. Right and Miss Right are for them and a few never figure that out. So its entirely possible for a young male to think he is in love with more than one girl.
However, I am familiar with another practice called 'Polyamory' Poly is not to be confused with swinging which is having multiple sex partners for the fun of it. As in any couple relationship, there will be sex but sex isn't the only reason two are together. This is the rest of a relationship, the being close friends, loving their personality and wanting to interact with and support them, etc. The only thing is that dit is doubled, or tripled. In most cases, there is a core relationship, a stable relationship, a healthy one and the longest lasting one. Then the male or female meets another who they fall in love with. None of poly is kept private. Current partners are made aware of any dating or wanting to have sex with or add another person into the mix of a growing relationship. There is more to tell but this is to give you an idea. Of all my studies and having known many poly people, I can say that you usually don't find people in this sexuall configuration unless they are in their thirties or older, and even then, not so much in the thirties as people want to be past trying for children and have had plenty of time to grow a stable first relationship. Its not just the good stuff multiplied twice or more but the bad things and problems too. So if you can not handle one relationship without too many issues, then you' will have more and worse with adding in more. Most women are territorial when it comes to other women and their guy. So the women have to be of a different mind set where they won't fight each other. This is not the norm of most women so in truth, there are very few people who could successfully navigate more than one love relationship. If its a guy wanting more than one female long term in his life at the same time, thats more like Polygamy which is one male and more than one female. You hear of these kinds of relationships more in Utah. Men who married each of these women and they all like in one big house or several and he had to share his time with each wife and has kids with all of them. But if any of those women wanted to have another male besides the husband with 3 or more wives, they would not be allowed. This is a situation of whats good for the man is not allowed for the women. I have had other questions come across here about a guy who has committed to several women and from the description, it sounded like a guy who was a controller, and liked having females need him and being a player in general trying to get away with something unfair by making it public to all the women he was into.
If you wish to share more of what is really going on here, I may be able to give you some idea's and help with advice that can help you decide what you want to do about it.
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