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You answered a previous question of mine and i wanted to elucidate
My question was For, what i think are, obvious reasons him and I both love bruises all over my body but he's been struggling to bruise me. Yes he can give me hickeys but that's not all I like, I really enjoy fingerprints on my inner thigh and hips. How can I help him do this, like what are some tips for him and I to try so he can master the fingertip bruises?
You gave a great explanation that might help others but not myself. I am not trying to change him, he came to me and asked me to help him because he likes it wayyy more than I do. He wasn't abused as a child and even though we were both raised in the south and taught to respect others ESPECIALLY women(from a male standpoint) he still wants to give bruises but PHYSICALLY can't. I am still left in the dark of how he can do this and so is he. Any advice?
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When you say he physically can't, that means it is not a mental block but something to do with his strength. Does he have some disability or is he out of shape with very weak muscles, especially in the hands? You don't have to answer me. If it's a specific disability, check out on line support groups for those with and their loved ones and I would ask there how others deal with the disability, a disease that affects strength especially in hands, or having a prosthesis.
If it's weak hand muscles, usually men have stronger hands already without exercise but I have heard of a few in my life who were for example too weak in hands and one couldn't even carry a gallon of milk as it was too heavy for him. There are specific exercises one can do to strengthen hands. The easiest is him using a hand stress ball, those things you sqeeze, because it also strengthens the hand. Ages ago, an old gym I attended had weights attached to what was like spinning handle bars like on a bike. If he attends a gym he can ask there if they have something for strengthening hand muscles. Heres a link to hand exercises:
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If its not truly physical as I am guessing by the words in this latest post, then it could only be a mental block and that is something I have no idea what to tell him. I know there is such a thing as sex counselors for any sexually related issues a couple can't fix on their own. As embarassing as it may feel, these people have heard everything and not bring their own feelings, beliefs or agenda to the table.
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