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boyfriend says i think you're an amzing woman?
hi, my boyfriend of 2 and a half month said I like you I love you and you're an amazing woman, I think. does this mean he's serious about me or just normal for a boys to say that in an early stage of relationship? what does he mean by amazing specially? he also says we're still getting to know each other. I do love him and we've known each other for 11 months but just started to date recently. both late 20s. cheers!
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Not everyone means the literal dictionary translation of a word so if you want to know what he meant, its not too late to ask. If he doesn't use that word again, then bring it up like this: The other day when you said I was amazing I know that's a compliment but I've been wondering what all it is about me that you find amazing?
Since i am not there to watch him throughout his days, I can not know if he was serious or not. Some people say love and they mean it as a stronger version of Like as in I don't like chocolate, I love chocolate. That kind of love can differ greatly from the being in Love with. Thats what I have with my 2nd husband and can say there definately is a big difference in how you are treated. Only one little caution, a Mama's boy type who simply wants a woman to be his mother but have you for sex also, will tend to come across as needy and subconsciously not realize it when they say I love you early on in a relationship. This guy has had about a year to observe you. Now that you're in relationship, he's getting to see more about you he loves, the subtler things one may not pick up from just watching a person from the distance. Yes, you're still getting to know each other, so it may be that at some point one or the other comes across a character trait or stance that you can't live with meaning it would be a deal breaker to continue on. If he says this, he isn't wanting you to get your hopes up yet, He is still saying he's in the process of checking you out more. The more you talk in depth, the faster you get to that point. But he may not be ready to commit, even though he's saying he loves you. Men see commitment often more seriously than women, the non-players that is. While women are in a hurry to have a guy commit, guys want to be 100% sure and will take their time, even if they find you fascinating and like or love you. Since you are the right age group for settling down with a mate, married or not, remember this important fact: The most solid foundation for a great relationship is 1.being each others best fried and 2.being each others sexual equal. I will explain the latter because I lived it. My first husband was not my sexual equal. Not only did he have low libido while I had the opposite, but he wasn't often aroused by me. NOt saying low libido is bad cus it's perfect if both have the same and only want sex a couple times a month rather than several times weekly. It could be different how long til he's ready to commit to only you the rest of his life if that's what you want. Knowing of each other is great but remember, he's seeing things in you while dating he hasn't before. So I am going to guess he doesn't need any longer than 6 months. If he needs a whole year to figure this one out, then either he has an issue he needed counseling for to get beyond it like thinking that because his parents or friends parents divorced, that it's inevitable to him too, or he doesn't really feel all that serious about you. IF it comes to this, decide to part for a while with no communication to see if he realizes once you're not around that he misses and needs you in his life. I will post an easy quiz composed of what men on you tube posts talked to women on how to know if a guy really loves you. This is really accurate and I've heard bits and pieces before but in this quiz, it'll really open your eyes to know where you really stand.
DOES HE LOVE ME?
Either he's doing a bad job of showing it to you or you are doing a bad job of picking up on the signals.
Why some relationships aren't working in a nut shell:
Some women give their love and devotion to a guy who doesn't deserve it, who is wrong for her
while others no matter how plain and simple the signs are of his love and devotion, they don't see it or trust it because of lack of self confidence.
1 A woman's insecurity and neediness will kill a man's love
Do you love me, do you love me? No matter what he says or does, she never believes him, even if he's never done anything to earn her distrust.
2 It's impossible to love others and be loved by others unless you love yourself first.
Don't look to a man for all your self esteem and self worth. Have it already before relationship..
3. Men do not show love the same way women do. For them it's how they feel when she is around and how she fulfills the dreams of the woman he's wanted and how possessive he feels if another man was paying too much attention to her. Some women translate love into his obsession for her and devotion while men translate her love for him as being appreciated and respected.
7 Questions to know if he really loves you
1. Does he say I love you. For some, it's a hard thing to say but they show it to you in other ways. When he says I love you, he is viewing that as a commitment to you. It is not a flippant phrase.
Saying I love you too early like during first couple dates is a warning about the guy. Its a very good chance he is needy and wanting a woman to be his mom. Other phrases from a guy count too, like you're awesome, I adore you. You're the woman I always dreamed of.
2. Does he make you a priority in his life? Guys have more than one priority...things very important to him but you should be one of top 3.
What he does for you or how he acts can't be faked easily because it's hard to lie with your body. Things he does without having to be asked, making dinner, picking up something for a collection you have, making time for you, even if it's a walk or a long phone chat. If the guy likes you, he'll make time for you at least a quarter of the time.
3 Does he tell friends about you and like to show you off? Have you been introduced to his family and friends? If he keeps you separate, he's hiding something or ashamed or fearful of something
4. Does he care about your pleasure during sex? Is he only into seeking his own pleasure or your's too. Does he open his eyes and want to have both your eyes connect while making love?
5. Does he respect and encourage you? Respect means, does he value your opinion, do you share decisions and treats you as a partner. Are you encouraged by him to have your own friends and hobbies outside the relationship and encourage you to seek your dreams and uphold you in that.
Jealousy is not love, it's control. It's okay to be protective, but jealousy shouldn't be what prompts the protectiveness
6. Do your friends and family like how he treats you? Others make a great gauge for judging a guys character.
7. Does he look at you with lust and passion in his eyes, with a hunger and thirst for you? Does he give you admiring looks, does he still want to sneak peeks down your shirt. What he sees is Very important since guys are visually stimulated. If he isn't looking anymore, he has lost his interest. All men because of this natural trait, will also view other women but do so discreetly, without being an ass about it. Don't expect a man to look at only you. If he doesn't look at other women at all, it may be a sign that he is gay. You do want a man who is visually stimulated by women.
How many points are true for you with your guy?
7 true He treats you as a Queen and he is an exceptional man
5-6 true He loves you. Just don't focus on what is lacking.
3-4 true He loves you enough to make the relationship work for him. If it's enough for you, then be content. If you feel like you're settling for less, let him go and look for something better.
1-2 true He's a douche-bag, a user or controller. Leave immediately.
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BTW, I have a man whose rates 7 and I love it.
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