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Should I stay or should I leave? (Relationship problems)
So I've been in a relationship with this guy for a little over a year now, and nothing has changed.
I mean, he treats me well and I love being with him. We have fun times every time we're together.
But even after one year of being together, I don't feel welcomed by his family and friends and I don't feel good enough. And I'm miserable and I'm crying my eyes out while writing this.
I love him to death, but I don't know what to do anymore. I'm sweet as hell to everyone in his life and I put infinite effort into our relationship, but I still feel absolutely terrible and not worth his love.
He says he'll "fix everything, I swear" but it's been months and it's still not fixed.
I don't know if I should waste anymore time when I could be perfectly happy with someone else...
What would you do in this situation? HONESTLY.
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Assuming you see this guy as husband material then his family is a package deal. Not all of us are fortunate enough to get a great set of in-laws. I was a lucky one and my in-laws accepted me immediately. My father in-law said to me after we announced our engagement, "no returns she is yours now." My wife on the other hand got my parents. Fortunately she is a strong person and stood up to my mother when needed.
I am not in a position where I should tell you yes you should leave or no you should not only you can make that decision.
You say,"he treats me well and I love being with him. We have fun times every time we're together." "I love him to death." You also say,"I don't feel welcomed by his family and friends and I don't feel good enough." You don't say why you feel this way. this lack of information does not allow me or any of us much leeway in answering you question though I can make some suggestions.
You love him to death so I assume you really don't want to leave him. You have asked him to talk to his family and he hasn't. Sit him down and tell him either he talks to his family or that you are going to invite his mother to have lunch and ask her straight out why the family is not accepting of you.
The other choice is to sit him down and tell him straight out that you love him to death but you cannot live this way. You've tried and tried but you do not feel you are acceptable to his family and you could not make a life with him unless his family was accepting of you. You need to know why they do not accept you and why. Do they feel you are good enough for him or what. Is there a chance you can ever have a real relationship with his family? then give him a deadline to meet. IF he fails to straighten things out or give you their reasoning's and its not something you can fix then I think you will know the answer to your question.
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