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He has become more hugging boy!
Hello, this friend of mine has started to give me a hug every time we meet and it's been twice he's done it. He's like oh (mention my name) approaches and gives me a hug. We've hugged few times when we're out with our friends saying goodnight in a group, that was like ages ago but lately seems like he likes hugging me whenever he sees me getting closer with his open arms looks more like offering a hug. Now, I'm thinking probably he knows I like him because we had a chat weeks ago and told me look I know that you like me and I like you he said it in a high insisting tone. I was bit uncomfortable as I didn't want him to find out just yet as we're only friends but he ended up saying you like me and I like you part so I got no clue I mean I do like him. For example he would sing a song to comfort me if he thinks I'm moody or sad. What is all this? We both have significant others in our lives therefore I feel extremely wrong to even like him. Any suggestions at all? Thank you
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When you say you like him, do you like him as a friend, or are you feeling things that one would feel to someone who is more along the lines of a potential lover. If you like him as friend only, make sure he knows where you feel comfortable drawing the line, things that are not okay for him to be doing, things that are not appropriate for a mere male friend.
I'd say yes, he does absolutely know you have some kind of interest in him. And I am supposing he is good at picking up on your body language, or facial expressions. He is That sure that you have more interest in him than just friend that he was willing to tell you how he feels. Just keep in mind that liking someone is a far step from being in love with a person. So just as it goes with no matter whom you meet, you can't really know them well enough until you have spent plenty of time around them.
I don't know how long you've been with your significant other but as I said, after enough time, if often enough weekly, you can get to know a person pretty good in a few months and really good by 6 months on. This kind of knowing in depth about a partner if what helps you to decide finally is the current one is a keeper or whether to move on. Some don't use dating as this discovery process and go straight to making a commitment to someone to date only them and that is before really knowing them well enough, only doing so based on the level of physical attraction. Relationships built on attraction alone, do not survive. That all said, if you are totally sure that current bf is the love of your life and one who wants to marry you someday, then just make sure male friend knows that, that there will never be a chance for him to be anything more than just a male friend. You admire him as a person and that's all.
But I don't think that's what he picked up on, you must have been entertaining thoughts about you and him. So if you are generally not a person who greets everyone you know with a hug (i am) then his hugs will feel inappropriate to you and you have the right to ask a friend to stop. I am guessing you may never have resisted the hugs so he assumes it is welcome.
If you are attracted to him and not sure whether to start dating him if he and you drop your current significant others, then we need to talk more.
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