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Hi there dragonflylymagic, thank you for answering the question but I still need to trouble you with one more question, as we both are in college, my boy mate told me he will miss me and after few seconds later he said it's weird with a tiny smile on his face saying it's all your fault. Why did he say he will miss me and it's weird? I'm going away for months but also told me I'm going to miss you, are you going to miss me? I said yes of course. The thing is I have a feeling that he's likes me at least a bit. He also said,'dont deny, you don't like me!' what did he mean by that? Is he because he's confident that I like him? I do though. Thanks a million! I'm sorry for asking you the same question as I just needed a simple straight answer please. Thank you!
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If I were a mind reader, then yes, I could give you a simple straight answer. I can not assume to know what he was thinking or really meant when he said those words.
I can make some good guesses. But just realize that my guesses are only guesses and not the truth until they have been confirmed. And since I am not there and its only you, it will be up to you to decide whether to get confirmation from him.
I am imagining a guy saying the same thing to me. If I heard what you did, just the 'it's weird' followed by 'it's all your fault' would make me just as curious. I would even think that he only spoke half of what he was thinking and feeling and left big gaps out and thats why I can't be sure what he said. I would have reworded what I thought he said to see if he meant exactly that. So I might have said, "So are you saying that it is a weird thing that you feel like you will miss me and that it is my fault that you feel its weird, or my fault that you will miss me? Because I am not sure I totally understand what you are getting at. You don't sound angry so I know you're not angry and accusing me of doing something wrong when you say its my fault"
Rephrasing and feeding back to a guy what you think he said is the best thing to do as its happening. Even in hindsight if you didn't, all you have to do is next time you talk, just mention you are still mulling over what he said and still are not sure what he really meant by it. Could he please explain now?
I do know that as a female, I would be using my imagination, trying to fill in the blanks and the most logical answer I would come up with is that he finds it totally an unexpected thing that he is already not looking forward to when you're gone as this feeling is what he is calling weird. I wouldn't know why he feels its weird. Maybe he's never felt this way before about anyone and so he assumed that no one ever really can miss someone that much, or maybe he feels it is strange to not want to be separate from you when to his mind he hasn't known you long enough to even begin to miss you, or maybe some other such reason.
As to saying its my fault. I would have to know his style of humor and teasing to be sure what it was. He could have been half teasing, half serious as in "What in the world did you do to me girl? Did you bewitch me or something. It's like you've gotten under my skin, I cant stop thinking about you or wanting to be with you. Just you being you and not doing anything special to try to catch me has me wanting you as more than just a friend.
All would seem to point to the fact that this is what he means but guys are notorious for not sharing enough words or in ways that a female can know for sure what they are getting at, as in there is not a 100% chance he meant that, and if theres just a slight chance he didn't, I wouldnt want to make a fool of myself assuming he meant that. So ask him dear.
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