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i enjoy your company, he says!
why does a guy friend keeps saying he likes my company, he enjoys my company whenever we see each other? he has stated that he likes me as a friend but really sometimes its so hard what boys are thinking actually. we have a good banter. I like him. however, is it another way of saying that he likes me and spending time with me? or am I over thinking things? thanks a lot!
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The word 'like' covers too many things. We use it to apply to why a friend enjoys being friends, we 'like' each other. Then there is the 'like' that females tend to use to apply to 'attracted to, in love with, want to be romantic with, etc.' So unless you know what interpretation he has behind using the work 'like',you can't know for certain just by hearing it.
So the question here is to ask yourself if you'd be open to trying to see how it works if the two of you were more than just friends.
In any really satisfying,long lasting relationship, there are two foundations it rests on, one is being best of friends. The other is the romantic side of it. So it is important you get along really great as friends and want to be around each other and have lots in common. The stronger feelings aren't always there right in the beginning but start slowly for some, like a live coal that grows eventually into a blazing flame.
If you are not interested in him that way, then do nothing but enjoy the friendship as just friendship and stop overthinking and accept the word 'like' as simply enjoying, not as being in love.
If however you believe your feelings for him are stronger than just 'friends', the best way to ask without it being awkward is to ask, "We do so well together as friends, that it makes me wonder if we could do just as well if we tried being more than friends. What do you think?" Stating it this way, in no way says that you already have feelings which can scare a guy not ready for that level of commitment yet, or one who doesn't feel the same in return who may feel too awkward from then on around you. Asking for what he thinks of that thought of yours is a safe way to find out how he feels without him having to reveal too much if not yet ready. If he thinks or knows he feels like more than friends or wants to be more than friends, a smart guy will see this as his opportunity to go for it without the stress of any 'expectations' on your part. You set the situation up as an either/or one. You are okay with just being friends, but if it turns out there's something more, you are also okay with it. This encourages a guy who has feelings to make his move in some way.
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