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The Girl That i love Hasn't Texted Me back in 2 Weeks What Should i Do ??
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i am having a long distance relationship with a girl..things were going very good until her grandma fell ill and my girl didn't text me back for 2 days for the first time and i asked her why ? and she said that she is just stressed and doesn't wanna talk to anyone when she is stressed (this was said by her 4-5 weeks ago flashback xD) and the reason that she is stressed is because grandma is ill and i tried to comfort her but she wouldn't even listen to me and i tried and i still am trying hard to comfort her but she...hasn't even looked at my texts but i notice her online on instagram once in 2 days or something like that idk ...i mean this is 2017 people usually can't live without their phone and i am sure that she got my text notification and yean...just igonored it and if i try to talk her about this she gets angry so i am just waiting for her reply from 2 weeks and this is really hurting me a lot i love her soo much and i miss her a lot ...and the question that struck my mind is that when you truly love someone ...can't you take atleast 2 mins in your day to send a text back ?? and i want to her but i know that she will get so mad at me for asking this that's why even i haven't asked this question and i feel really bad going through all these and valentine's day is just about to come and i wanna send her some gifts and flowers but i donoo her address -_- ....and yea i am just waitinf for her reply and honestly this process is hurting me a lot ...THE WAIT ! ughh so Painfull sometimes i fell like just Dying ...idk what to do ......
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If someone has told you that they are having a difficult time and politely to back away and they will contact you when ready do as they ask. You don't know her grandma's situation or how stressful and ongoing it is.
She may be devastated or depressed and you just don't know what is going on. A person can go on the Internet, read social media, respond to a comment or post to Instagram or what have you but it doesn't necessarily mean they are ready to talk to others about feelings or things in their lives.
What you need to do is back off. Let her come to you and do the contacting when she wants to. Don't call, don't text just don't. Whatever you usually do just don't. The texting, calls etc after she asked you to back off is telling her that you aren't concerned and do not listen. It's making you look like an idiot or needy to her and totally unattractive. You have to give her the space she asked for it will not end right.
Secondly, to be fair you aren't even in her daily life as it is. She's far away as are you. She has a new environment, friends, school perhaps, work etc. and you are only there for phone and text. Perhaps a ton of priorities in addition to grandma are on her plate to juggle.
You need to go about your life right now as though she's not in it until she comes to you. If she hasn't contacted you by the end of this month move on as it may be her way of trying to get you to move on.
Sure, she could be ignoring you or your texts no question but we also don't know. I know if someone I knew was in hospital and close to me that I would shut off my phone and not be in contact with anyone I really didn't need to be until ready. She's seemed to tell you that so I would believe her for now.
My advice is to stop with the texting, calls, social media etc. She knows you are there and it's up to her to contact you. If you keep up with that you'll permanently piss her off. I have seen it before. You have to go about your normal life and if your relationship is meant to be it will happen.
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