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Told my crush I like him and now he avoids me
Hello Dragonflymagic, I understand your point. I accepted that he just wanted to be friends. That is why I tried to take my distance. I just tried to disappear from his life and forget about him, but he is the one that still texts me sometimes and comes to say hi whenever he sees me. Actually he started to act weird when I mentioned something funny to him about a girl in my job. That night he seemed pretty upset and immediately texted a girl nobody of his friends or family knew. And a few minutes later she answered so he told everyone that the girl he liked had texted him back so he had leave. He barely said bye because he was really upset. Before he left he told me to bring the girl I mentioned next time we met because he wanted to meet her. That week he started to avoid me. I thought I had it all wrong so that's why I decided to tell him I liked him. But he didn't want to speak. After I told him he started to avoid me even more. What do you think is happening? Sorry for not giving this details before.
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If you tried to give him space and he's the one making contact of a sort, then he must at least be open to remaining friends, maybe not as close as before but thats good. Asking about girls as he did would show that he is either hetero or....far fetched but if he's got any family who are highly religious, they may be against the concept of people having alternative sexual orientations. He may struggle with feeling attraction to males but be fighting it because of trying to fit the mold family has for him. So if he's gay, asking about and wanting to meet girls may be just the cover up to make himself appear more like what family would expect.
It's hard to know what is going on in someones head but there aren't any other scenerio's I can think of that fit. Rather than try to imagine what is really going on inside of him, it would probably be best to have a good talk with him if he's open to it. Or if he's unwilling, at least texting him. Let him know that as his friend, you are willing to do whatever works best. If he'd rather you give him space, then you'll do it. But if he'd rather truly just be friends only and has no problems being friends with a gay person (sorry to make it sound so bad, I have no other idea how to state it) you would be glad to continue to be his friend and as far as romantic feelings, you will accept he doesn't return the feelings and you will when ready look for that other person you'd like to find as a mate.
By the way, I am some doubts that he even texted a girl he liked as no one knows of any. He may have made that up on the spot to weave an illusion that he is into females. How does anyone there know who he really texted if he got a return text. It could have been his mother, another friend. Unless he has enough trust in you to open up and share what is really going on inside him, you may never know.
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