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how to talk to your crush
Theres this guy i like hes a year above me. I really like him and we have kissed. I get really awkwwrd and shy around him and cant talk to him. How can i talk to him?
Also right now we arent talking at all like he wont speak to me so how can i just start a convo with him?
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If its only him you are shy around and not shy around other people, then you are normal because we tend to worry more about the impression we are going to make, not wanting to come across as boring or stupid to the one we are so interested in. If you have no trouble talking to your friends, then talk to him as you would your friends. Do you talk about your favorite music, singer, band? How did you ever start talking to the girls who are your friends. You probably said Hi and gave your name and asked what theirs was if you didn't know. Then you'd talk about something you have in common whether wearing the same color that day or being in the same history class together. You can make a comment but people really like talking about themselves for the most part, so make sure to ask a question related to the situation in which you find yourself. Maybe there is a dance coming up or you run into him in the mall. If you can't think of anything to start with, at least pay the person a true compliment. Dont make it up saying you like his handwriting if you think it looks ugly. You can pay wonderful personal compliments that let the other person you've been watching them closely, like "I like the sound of your laugh, or I like the way you think (for later when he's talking enough to share things so you can make this assessment or not) If he's very punctual, or reading a book you liked, you could ask if reading the book was his choice and if so then compliment for having good taste in books. YOu could even take a teasing tone and quickly add, ....because I read that book. And smile.
Kissing is just as intimate as sharing things about yourself and opening up in conversation to trust someone with your feelings. Its just another kind of intimate. So if you're already on a kissing basis, I'm sure you'll have no trouble talking to him. Don't wait for him to talk first. Lots of guys are just as shy or afraid of rejection or believe in letting girls make the first move until they know where they stand with you.
The only thing you don't start off early sharing is that you have a crush on him or that you like him or love him. That will scare and shut down a guy like nothing else. He would feel pressured to be at that same level even if he doesnt feel that way yet. Or he may not be attracted to you romantically (which I doubt because of the kiss) remember for future with other guys, just because one person feels something doesnt guarantee the other does as well and it is something that can't be changed being a chemistry thing and pheremone thing.
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