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Loneliness in college?
Even though there's so many people I always feel so alone whenever I go to school. So being an introvert in high school I didn't really have any friends I mostly had acquaintances and the friends I did have we would only text about school but now that we don't go to the same school anymore they don't text me to see how I'm doing because why bother? (I'm usually the one to text them first if I don't text them I won't hear from the at all) so fast foreword, since I knew I didn't really have any friends I decided to go to my schools orientation week to make some friends because I've heard from previous students they met their best friends in orientation week. Long story short thanks to my over protective parents I only got to go to 3 of the 10 orientation days and the "friends" I made there either had conflicting schedules with mine meaning whenever they were free I was in class or when I was in class they were free so again why bother keeping the friendship that barely started? And the other friends I made forgot who I am, I know this because I added some them on Facebook they have yet to accept my request (I know they're active because their profile pics change and their friends on their lists include some of the people from orientation). Anyways then I tried making friends in my classes I successfully made one friend but she's always busy with work so the only time I get to talk to her is in class. Meanwhile my other classes I made a friend group but the problem is none of us know each other's names so you can tell we aren't going to be friends next year because it's basically that friend group that are only friends for the sake of being in the same class. So after making friends in those two classes I got tired of being the one to initiatie conversation first with people so in two of my 5 classes I don't have any friends because nobody bothered to talk to me in those classes. So I'm feeling lonely and depressed ever since university started I've cried myself to sleep almost every night about having no friends, I usually have a 2-3 hour break between classes so I'm always by myself during the breaks while I see people chatting it up with their friends and it's not fair. I've tried so hard to make friends at this school, I even joined the schools freshman Facebook page and became friends with these two girls long story short, ever since I met them in person they stopped messaging me, if I don't message them I won't hear from them and whenever I try to make plans with them they'll make excuses but have time for each other. It just sucks that I'm trying so hard and it's like no one wants to be my friend. I would've joined a school club but because I'm a commuter I go to school to go to class and then catch the bus to go home , plus having over protective parents I can't stay on campus past 6:30 anyways (which is when my last class ends). I'm not the type to put myself out there and try to talk to people but as you can see I've come out of my comfort zone so many times to try to make friends and talk to people but it's like nobody is interested and it's taking a toll on my mental health. It's so bad that now my family is concerned with my well-being they always ask if I've made any new friends and my answer is always no, they feel so sorry for me that now if any of my old friends invited me out they would want me to go (not they do invite me out) anyways I'm an 18 year old female do you have any advice on how to deal with this college loneliness? Do you think it would get any better? I'm just tired of making an effort and nobody wants to reciprocate it. I'm just tired of being alone and feeling alone and I'm tired of crying almost every night
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