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My friend betrayed me
Ive had this friend for over a year and I consider her one of my best friends. She brings out the best person in me and I love that about her. She sleeps at my house every weekend and we talk and snapchat all the time. We have never been annoyed with each other and never got into a fight or anything. We have different taste in men which even makes our friendship even better. I suffer from depression and anxiety and she knows this but she didn't know me when I was in my manic stage. Basically. I was talking to this guy for about a month, texting, snapchatting, facetiming and I was really into him and he seemed into me. We hung out one day and we basically did everything besides have sex. After we hung out he said it was okay and my best friend came over his house and the three of us were hanging out. He basically fell in love with her. It really upset my feelings. He asked me for her number when we both left his house and I gave it to him kinda testing him. The past 2 weeks he has been flat out ignoring me and hitting up my best friend. She told me not to worry shes not interested in him and hes an asshole whatever. One night she sent me a snapchat of her at a bar and I said who are you with? And she answered with one of our girlfriends so I was like oh ok. I fell asleep and woke up an hour later from snapchats from HER and the GUY I liked together. Like that litterarly hurt me so much. She knows how I feel about him. She lied to me and went to hang out with him. I flipped out on her telling her my feelings are extremely hurt and I felt like my boyfriend cheated on me. I still am upset. She feels bad but like I went in my drepression of self harming, negative thoughts, cried all day and night, barely slept, didn't eat, and had little energy and felt so fatigue. I am feeling better now but im still extremely hurt. I don't know what to do. If she thinks this is the love of her life do I tell her to keep talking to him even though it hurts me so much like whats wrong with me for no one to like me? I am just really hurt.
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know how feel, but forgive her for your sanity, and talk to her about it. and if thatt doesnt work may want stop being friends, since she knew what she was doing.
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Hi,
Firstly, I did like to acknowledge you to share this in public and be open to advice from people who are completely strangers to you.
The guy you met and fell in love with and the so called "best friend", were completely strangers to you, at one point of time. With the time spent and certain experiences you chose one as a friend and another as lover.
Now, there is an experience you are going through that you didn't expect at all! There is something going on with you which you are not comfortable because best friend means something to you and love means something to you. And, both these people are not acting consistent to the meaning you have about friendship and love.
So, what do I mean?
Untag both the labels of best friend and lover. Look them as two unique people whom you allowed to enter in your life. You CHOSE them and tagged a relationship that made you FEEL GOOD.
You have a CONCEPT of love and friendship but not actually loving someone.
I am not blaming you or making you responsible for everything, but true power to heal yourself is looking what going on within you and rising from there.
I know you are brave and no two people can define your life. CHOOSE YOURSELF first and LOVE YOURSELF.
Committed to you for a lovable life!
Love,
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