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How to Deal with Body Dysmorphic Disorder?
I know all of you will say to see a therapist, which is exactly what I'll be doing on Wednesday.
But I want to have the honor of receiving others' advice as well.
I have an issue with how I look where I literally cannot stop thinking of how "ugly" I see myself. I find all of my facial features deformed and abnormal where everyone else thinks I'm pretty or cute. Honestly, I haven't had anyone call me ugly since the sixth grade (unless they've said it behind my back). I've only heard that I'm beautiful, pretty, gorgeous or cute. But my BDD screws with me more than anything. I can't stop looking in the mirror. When I Skype with my boyfriend, I can't stop looking in the little box where it shows my face.
I'm obsessed with how "ugly" I look to myself. I don't know how to deal with my BDD. It's SO severe and it's taking over my life.
Any help would be GREATLY appreciated!!!
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This is not something I or any one of us can help you with in this type of forum. What you have is a form of mental illness. No your not crazy and no you don't need to be locked up in some hospital.
I'm not a doctor but my gut reaction to what I read about BDD is it is a second cousin to some type of depression where you have allowed your mind to convince you that your ugly despite what others have told you. In this instance you have told yourself often enough that you are ugly top the point that you know believe yourself regardless of what others may say. I would go so far as to say that the BDD has caused a mild form of depression to go with it.
All hope is not lost. You have taken the first step in seeing a therapist. Understand that whatever you say to the therapist stays with the therapist and does not go back to your parents. The therapist should tell you this up front in the first meeting.
This has to be this way as the therapist is about to become your new best friend. Someone you can tell your deepest and darkest secrets to. For therapy to work you have to trust the therapist and tell him or her what is bothering you and why. Answer the questions asked and work with him or her. Someone put that notion in your head maybe a long time ago that you have buried it. You may have even been a toddler at the time. The what and the why or how needs to come out to get better.
From me to you. That which is us is not the package we are in. Remember beauty is only skin deep. We the person the people who we fall in love with and fall in love with us resides below the skin. Beauty and sex appeal will only get you so far in this world. Then one day you wake up and have nothing to talk about and the sex appeal has disappeared or waned. The people whose marriages last are the people who get to know the real person. The person who lives just below the skin.
I have been married going on 46 years. I met my wife at work. She was a voice on a phone that I spoke with many time a day. By the time we actually met I could have picked her out of a crowd for I new exactly who she was before even meeting her. I got to know her first and the sex appeal second. Which is why we are married this long. The fact that my wife was pretty was an extra for I already had made my mind up she was the girl I was going to marry if she would have me. Keep this in mind when working with your therapist.
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