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27 yearvold virgin!
I am a 27 year old virgin . My boyfriend of 1 year wants to have sex Friday night but i am scared because i was molested by my dad when i was 3 and never told him . How do i tell him?
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I am so sorry to hear you were molested by your dad. A child should always be safe in a parents arms.
absent a third party such as a therapist to help you explain this to him I would suggest you sit down with your boyfriend before you start to cuddle and get intimate to tell him the truth.
IF you do want to have sex with him say so up front. But tell him you are also scared because you were once molested as a child. If he truly loves you he will understand and go slowly. You do not have to tell him it was your father who molested you. Especially if your father is still in the family picture. He I assume is more experienced then you are so ask him to go slowly and let you get comfortable with each step in the love making process.
If you two have never been naked together then I would suggest that maybe you stop at just being naked in the same bed together. There are ways, I'm sure you know of to satisfy your boyfriend without intercourse, such as a handjob and maybe you let him finger you.
You two can cuddle and you can get use to being naked with a man and having him next to you at night. In the morning you will be more relaxed and more comfortable. The next step would be to possibly shower together.
I believe the more time you two spend together naked and you allowing him to touch you will condition you to allowing him to make love to you. I would also suggest you get some counseling to fully close the molestation you experienced so you may fully enjoy the sex life you are entitled to .
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