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He relapsed and broke it off
Hi! 24/f
We went on a few dates, and got very serious, very quickly. He was very open and said he was in AA, sober for 3 years. He then texted me a few hours before a date and said he failed to share that he relapsed a couple of weeks ago and his sponsor highly recommends that he should not date for a few months to focus on himself & recovery. That makes total sense, but I have such strong feelings for him. Should I check in with him a month or so and just catch-up and hear about his progress or should I just stay away?
I've never dated someone in AA, so I'm not sure if that would be a distraction and really bad or good because it means I want to be friends, and I'm really wanting the best for him/ to hear about his accomplishments. I don't think I can text him sooner than that because I honestly think he just needs time.
What do you guys think?
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My brother in-law is a 25 year recovering alcoholic. He says AA saved his life and he lives the 12 step program. Understand one thing about living with a recovering addict. There lives are and have to be black and white there can be no gray areas.
Example my brother in-law hired a company to put a new roof on his house. The crew that did the roof offered to install gutter guards at a price well below that of what he was quoted by their boss. To the crew it was normal to do so and they receive a share of the sale if they do make the sale. I took advantage of the savings when they did my roof. My brother in-law did not and called the company to report them because to him they were cheating their boss.
The product would not be on the truck if they weren't expected to try and make a sale. It is a last ditch attempt at additional profit from a job. The product cost them next to nothing and only an hours or so worth of labor making the sale almost pure profit.
I can't tell you exactly what to do though my advice is to wait to let him come to you. In the meantime continue to date and see if you find someone you might be more compatible with.
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