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What do men think about girl friends
Hello.
Well i am a girl, Who usually hangs out with guys because i just can be myself with them and stuff.
Also, we got used to each other and we really enjoy being together. They are frank with me and talk freely abt girls and sex and any subject with me, but they sometime just forget that i am a girl too.
I just want to understand how do they really see me, and would they insult me when they're together like they do with others.
I mean can i believe in friendship btween girls and boys.
PS: one night in the last year, we deeply kissed me and one of them but just moved on it without saying any word about it. And it's just making me so anxious bcz i'm afraid he won't see me the same way as before. We're still as close as before but i'm having those ideas.
What would happen if i was into him or him into me?
Thank u.
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So this is a case of opposite sex being best friends and the female starting to have stronger feelings for the guy.
In cases like this, the one with feelings is usually wanting to bring it out into the open thinking that makes it easier. If my crush just knew how I feel about him, he would have an instant desire for more than friendship with me as well. Life doesnt work that way. When alerting a person to the fact that we have a huge crush on them, there's no guarantee that they feel the same.
In fact, the biggest reason to not tell is for the very same reason of wanting to keep such a friend, Indeed if a person A has just learned that person B is in love with them what is that news supposed to do. In a world where everything goes your way, I suppose we hope news of our undyling love would make the other person fall in love with us or at least confess to the lady that he's had a crush on her forever and now they can share that love out in the open.
I don't even know one movie that has a script like that. You have been doing what I suggest as a good way for guys and gals to learn about each other, become their buddy and friend.
What edge does that give you? Probably that fact that the guys know how to talk to you, know some stuff ahout you, getting to skip and hop ahead of the guys.
I used to do the same, hang out with a group of guys wanting to start their own band.
I remember guys liking being able to have a girl on the inside, their wingman, to help with all things girl related.
However, when the conversations got too intimate between myself and one of the guys, thats when they became uncomfortable cus it was now personal.
YOu are probably correct that he won't see you in the same way as before.
Heres a good point to learn right now with future loves. When you are already in love, dont state it as being a fact, only that it is starting to happen. FOr some weird reason, if a guy can hear or figure that that process of you being attach to him is just stating gate. Guys like to trouble solve for gals even when there isn't any trouble. So to come mention it to him that you've in love is like a silent ask of what do we do now? And most guys don't like feeling uncomfortable being around someone with feelings for them that they dont reciprocate. It is less threatening for a guy to hear that you are just begining to have feelings cus this leaves him in a space of feeilng more control and such. Some guys and girls just do better as each others best friends than otherwise. I had more male than females friends growing up. My husband has lots of female friends.
Just make sure to tell the one you told that you were maybe overzealous when you shared that you are s tarting to have feelings for him and wondering how you can to about this now. When you bring the guy in and mention this situation and you want his input and ideas on it, then let him talk. Even if its not what you want to hear, steer the conversation in the direction you want it to go to get the answers you need.
If you've ever wondered why your male friends get along well with you, is it becasue of who you are as a girl that attracted them? Theres two parts to any relationship with men and women, being ones b est friend and the other, each others sexual equals. What you are doing is becoming best friends first and later falling for someone which is harder than the obvious suck face in an instant when 2 are really sexually attracted. ANd that is the type of relationship girls want first up with a guy. Guys wants the sex straight up but would also like opportunity to just become best friends with andd with they g et to the point they no longer wonder what they're buddies think, they are ready for a romantic relationship.
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