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HI ..its me...you answered my question about my classmate/crush rejecting me ...like i said i removed him from my friends on fb bc it hurt me really bad and i told him in person i dont wanna be friends because of it...and he said it was ok.but since i told him i feel much worse, he sent me friend request on fb but i didnt accept it, but after month of not talking to each other i want to accept it and i also wanna write him on piece of paper (like i also did when i confessed my feeling to him)how i feel, and why i exactly did it because when i was telling him why i removed him from friends i was nervous and i didnt tell him everything, so now i want explain it to him by writing it to the paper , dont you think it would be weird ?,i guess i will be friends with him, because when i dont talk to him and ignor him it hurts me much worse...i also want include that im sad and that i may seem happy its not true.. (because i laugh loudly in class but inside im very depressed..i dont know why i laugh) do you think it would be weird if i confide in him that im sad/depressed??...and im depressed bc i feel like nobody in my class likes me..and because my older brother always calls me fat everyday!!!and im nt that fat.. it really depresses me..and also i have twin brother, we go to same class..and he has gf but he doesnt told me..i see him everyday with girl at hall in school, he always secretly call with someone , he removed me from friends on fb so i wouldnt know what pictures he post with her i guess, and once he told me i should mind my own business and it hurt so much bc im his twin, he doesnt confide in with me, i cannot event touch him, my older brother doesnt even have me among facebook friends...also there would be one in my class who would i kinda like and he kind of gave me signals that he likes me too i guess, but then i found he has gf..why every boy i like doesnt like me??
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You have a lot in this message. I will go with what I see the most important to address. It is a good thing that you feel the need to share how you are feeling inside but the person whom you have chosen is no more equipped to handle helping you in a way that is professional enough to really help you.
So telling him how sad or depressed you are will accomplish the following: burden him with something he doesn't know how to handle, cause him to worry about you trying suicide (I've read lots of teens burdoned with trying to help classmates who want to commit suicide and feeling that its only their responsibility to prevent it) telling can cause not just him but others to shun you even more.
Think a moment if you are attracted to wanting to befriend the kids who wont look you in the eye, look lonely and depressed, have social issues or depression, the outcasts...so to speak.
I was a social anxiety ridden teen and tho I had a few friends, never had a boyfriend in HS and was not popular at all. Its hard to want to be friends with someone who seems boring, really shy, or depressed and I fell into that catagory. Even I back then, didn't want to befriend someone else as bad off as me or worse off. I had enough handling my own crap. Most teens are not self assured and aren't until later in life, always worried about being accepted and liked. Teen hood is a most difficult time to get thru but now that I am much older looking back, I would say that the closer a person got to age 30, they weren't as picky or seeing me as someone not worth knowing.
Self confidence is the key to being attractive to others wanting you as their friend and you also can't really be depressed for long if you have a good solid self confidence. People pick up on it like a radio picks up radio waves, you don't see a tangible thing but they know its there and like it. In fact, adult males in tests done gravitated more toward the self confident average looking or plain looking females than toward the model types who had no self confidence.
And that would bring me to your last question wondering why every boy you like doesnt like you the same way. Well in HS, boys just aren't mature yet, still acting for the most part like little boys but with raging hormones so they really don't want the friendship or romance as much as they want to practice flirting, kissing and get sex. They also do not know what they really want yet and what they think they may like and go after now is not what they are going to want to marry someday if they are the marrying type. The same actually goes for girls too at that age, not really understanding themselves well enough to know what they want and what kind of guy is best for them. Do we really need the practice of dating while in our teens to be good at dating when older? NOt at all! So while you may feel left out, you can't force someone else to like you.
Where this leaves you is needing someone local who can give you the time to help you work thru your depression. Only clinical depression seems to require meds. But depression that comes and gos due to events in life that are too much for us at the time, is a periodical type that c an be fixed without needing meds. You may want to talk to a school counselor and see if they have recommendations for someone to work with you.
I do know a list of things that help boost the neuro transmitters which keep us happy and when these get too low, its means the level of neuro transmitters is depressed, another word for too low or run out of basically. If you are interested in doing the things on this list, it may help you boost your levels and come out of depression. If not, then you'd need to see a Dr. and I recommend the kind who looks at all types of treatment not just medicine ones cus the other types, like one called CBT cognitive behavioral therapy seems to work better than even meds on some of the toughest patients. If you want my list of things to do to boost your neuro transmitters, let me know and I will send to you.
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