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Should I rush for a new sorority when I had a bad experience last time?
Hello, about a week and a half ago I participated in sorority recruitment (aka rush) and I went in positive that I would get a bid.
I don't mean to boast, but I'm an honors student, I dress nice, from what people have told me I'm pretty and cute, I volunteer all the time, participate in clubs and I love meeting new friends and being social.
Well by the end of recruitment I thought I had great conversations and potential with 3/6 of the sororities. I was so happy and loved every party. Then I was dropped by 2 of the sororities by bid day and only offered a bid by the group I promised myself I wouldn't join.
I felt very betrayed because the girls all acted like they really liked me. They would even say they could see me as their sister and that they couldn't wait to see me again. I was so excited to be in a sorority because I thought I had nailed it and was sure to get a bid from one of the groups I liked. The worst part is that I share an apartment with a girl who's in one of the sororities I thought I was sure to get a bid from and even she acted like they really liked me so when I was dropped from her sorority the night before bid day I was floored.
I figure part of it was because I didn't dress like everybody else, but I dressed according to the sorority recruitment dress code when pretty much everybody else dressed in prom dresses the whole week. For example, one day's dress code was "professional but cute" so I dressed in a really cute outfit that was fit for an interview. Then when I got to the different parties I saw that everybody else was dressed in cocktail and prom dresses with giant heels on. The same thing happened on one of the casual cute days, I was dressed in something casual, but cute and everybody else was formal.
I also figure maybe I just wasn't the sorority type. I'm not a party girl. I don't do risky stuff. Maybe I wasn't stuck up enough or didn't wear high enough heels, idk. Now I just feel like sorority girls are very fake and don't want to associate with any of the current girls because I assume that they're all snickering at me behind my back.
Anyways, there's a new sorority colonizing on campus and I thought maybe I would try them out. I would be interviewed by older adults from the chapter's head quarters who are flying in from another state, which sounds way better then being interviewed by a bunch of pretentious girls.
I also like the new sorority's philanthropy because it lines up with my college major and I feel like it could benefit me. I like that their recruitment is only three days long instead of two weeks because I can do it and get it over with rather than getting my hopes up for a long period of time and then having them crushed. Their recruitment is not for another month, so by then what's left of my hard feelings from rush week will hopefully be entirely dissipated and I can go in feeling good about it.
The bad part is, I know if I don't get into this sorority either that I'm going to feel like a fool and really think there's something wrong with me. Either that or if I do get in, I won't want to associate at all with any of the other sororities.
What do you think?
Should I try out or just not worry about it and move on entirely from the sorority world?
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