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MEN DO YOU DO THIS??
MEN DO YOU FLIRT/PICK ON/MASSAGE SHOULDERS WITH OTHER WOMEN, WHEN YOU HAVE A FIANCEE AND OR A WIFE ?
if so why? do you do this to be silly, potentially wanna cheat with one of those women???? there's a reason behind everything you do....and im just curious as to why some men do this, if they have no feelings for the person that they are picking on/flrting with daily especially if they are just friends and this is what you both agreed to be..... then why get upset/hurt if she doesn't gesture back or if she says/reminds you that the two of you are just friends and this is what you agreed to be and on top of that you have a fiancée?
Would you be/get jealous if she did what you did to other men? I find doing that type of stuff while having a significant other is being disrespectful especially if you don't tell the person you are doing the actions to, that you have some and lie and say you are single and you aren't......
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To start with let me say I have been happily married for 45 years and the only woman who has shared my bed in those 45 years has been my wonderful wife. As to your question yes I have given other women neck and shoulder massages. Some were friends of ours and some were business associates.
Let me explain, for most of our married life I have been in sales. At one time I worked for a leading manufacturer of products that were sold in lighting showrooms. These showrooms were primarily staffed by women and the more exclusive the showroom the more model type sales people they employed.
Part of selling is not just product knowledge it is getting to know your customer and becoming their friend so that they welcome you into their place of business. Salespeople like me of both genders know they have obtained this status when they walk into the showroom and are greeted with hugs and kisses. It hard to say no to a friend is the theory behind this.
As the products I sold were not always the type I could drag into the showroom they would have to look at pictures and cut sheet. As they bent over their desk to look at the pictures and material I was showing I started to give the ladies I was closest with neck and shoulder massages. They liked it and I continued. Again on the theory of be hard to say no to a friend.
I would also take these women to lunch. I would lead the conversations away from business to ask about them, their husbands, children or boyfriends and other things going on in their lives. After returning to the showroom and completing our business I would get back in my car drive down the street and park, pull out a file I kept on each customer and make notes of our conversation so I could remember to ask about whoever was ill or if she and her boyfriend got over the problem they were having.
That night from my hotel or over dinner at home I would tell my wife everything that happened that day. I had to stop giving the neck rubs when sexual harassment became an issue. The ladies missed them and asked why I stopped. I told them why and they understood that some one could misunderstand my intentions.
So as you can see not everything is as you might think. The hugs and kisses were all brother and sister type and for me just a part of business that even when I started calling on different industries I used different portions of this to continue to be a very successful salesperson.
For me I was never looking to cheat on my wife. My only goal was to make a friend who would find it hard to say no to what I was attempting to get them to buy and it worked very well. To be frank since none of them ever tried to make any type of pass at me I don't think they wanted any more from me either.
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