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i dont find the love
hello there
i live in Egypt i'm 17 but there is something makes me angry my girlfriend let me and go i was so sad but when i want to start anew love i didn't find so can i find here i suffer :( please answer me
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
You are only just starting in the realm of dating and relationships with a girl. Nothing is over yet. Its really only starting. Dating is nothing more than the way to get to a relationship. But then we need to decide for what reason we are in a relationship and there will usually be many before we end up with the person who truly loves us back and we can end up spending the rest of our lives with. So all I can say is here are the best things you can do right now:
1. Look closely at yourself especially for weakness and things you need to work on to get better at. So if you tend to have a temper and get angry easily, you might want to think about why, is it worth it?, how to relax and feel more at peace and reading books on these subjects can help alot if you are serious about becoming a better person today than you were yesterday.
Itss not about a giant big change in you all of a sudden which is hard goal to get to, but making the changes on a daily basis until its a new habit and new part of you.
2. Want do you want a girlfriend for right now? You need to be clear on this before you can start dating but most people just react to someone who looks go and just launch themselves into dating because of the persons looks only, not what their personality is like. At your age, you are probably not looking for a wife and a mother of your future children. More likely that you just want to enjoy with company of a female socially to go out with, but without any real commitment for the future. What you need to know here is that many females think and feel very much differently than males and sometimes you may find they are expecting the impossible from their guy, or expecting a guy to actually be hetero-sexual but act more like a gay guy into the things that females usually are into. And if you have sex with a female, they can mistake that for being in love rather than just being sex for sex sake. When in love, its called making love but theres trouble when one of a couple feels they are in love, even if its the guy and the other does not.
So decide first what you are looking for. THen be clear with a girl when you meet her that right now you are dating for just the experience of getting to understand females better while also giving the attention and enjoying the attention given to you. Love is one of the areas where we just can't protect ourselves from future heart ache and that brings me to....
3. Don't wall off your heart by not trying ever again to meet someone because of fear of getting hurt. Even long married couples still can irritate or hurt their partner even though it wasn't their intention. And if the two really love each other, they will forgive and move on. But the process of learning how to find the right person for you is loaded with lots of hurts and heart aches along the way. You have to endure the hurt and keep yourself open to meeting someone because if you'd rather protect yourself from ever hurting like this again, you'll never enter another relationship, always finding some way to stop yourself.
4. If you just need ideas on how to find someone, start thinking about what you like to do, your hobbies and then join clubs where others with the same hobbies meet. Can't guarantee the members will all be your age range, but go with it, get used to meeting groups of people. Some of the older members may have a daughter your age.
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