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I feel isolated in real life and on the internet.
It's none of your faults... It's mine... for existing. I always start to feel negative emotions because I get jealous of people or irritated when people give me one word replies and so on... It never seems to end. I've been jealous of example, people who mention their boyfriends or getting married, even if it's been just roleplays since it often feels realistic to me in a way, or just having happier lives in general, and it's so hard not to feel some kind of negative feeling when I'm alone in real life, myself... That's partially why I'm so obsessed with wanting people to talk to because even if it's only for a short time, it helps me evade those types of posts. But like I mentioned before... This same emotion ALWAYS repeats... I can't stand it sometimes. I try really hard to ignore it, and I'm either kind of successful or a failure completely... It gets worse when I have complete silence with nothing making me happy at all. I guess I'm just not the type of person that wants silence all the time... Yet I also don't always want to be bothered since I get exhausted and worn down so easily... I'm just so messed up... It won't end. It never will.
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Don't compare yourself to others. Someone always comes out on top and its usually not you. You want a relationship because you think it'll make you happy. You get jealous of those in relationships cause you want to be happy "like them". Realize that just because people are in a relationship, it doesn't mean that they're happy. Lots of times they would be happier to be single, but are trapped somehow. So don't get jealous because you think they're happy. They very well might not be.
Emotions mostly happen when you react to a thought. When you hear them talking about their boyfriends a thought comes to mind. Probably that she is lucky or that you are not lucky. Or is a reminder that you are not in a relationship and that thought upsets you. So you feel jealousy.
You need to stop the thought in its tracks as soon as you have it and focus on something else. Or if the thought comes up you can redirect it by thinking to yourself that they are probably not happy together. Something to make you feel better that you don't have it. Instead of just going into your head filling yourself with ideas that don't serve you.
Other ideas that don't serve you is the idea that you're messed up and it will never change. If you hold that belief, then your brain will look for evidence to support that belief. Sounds crazy, but that's how the brain works. It focuses on things, then subconsciously looks for evidence.
There's plenty of dating sites and groups to meet up. You just gotta do something instead of just wishing for it.
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