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Why would he text me first if he's not going to reply my messages after?
Hi, I'm from Turkey, I'm a female, and I'm 16, whereas my crush is 18.
So my crush texted me last night about an artist we both like, and he sent me some youtube videos about that artist. I replied him saying I really liked the videos, he didn't answer although he saw my messages. Then I sent him a video similar to his, he didn't reply that either. It would be quite normal if I texted him first then he didn't answer none of my messages, because it would mean he doesn't want to talk. But why did he text me in the first place if he doesn't want to talk? And if he wants to talk, why does he keep ignoring my messages?
Also if I see him at school, should I say anything to him? Or should I just say hi and go?
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Hon, you grew up in a generation of cell phones, texting and computers, things I didnt have when your age. I had to learn how to communicate with people face to face. That face to face communicating is now becoming a lost art. If you knew what I know from living in a different time with different experiences, you'd see easily why there are natural problems that come when texting is the only main way some people use to communicate. I too will watch a video sent to me and not necessarily respond to it.
He wasn't texting you to communicate and have a good in depth conversation, he was simply sending you a little gift which shows he was thinking of you or that you are on his mind often throughout his day and he knows you well enough to know what you would like and enjoy. So sending you something you like was a little way to show he cares about you..
There are professionals on communication who teach that the majority of conversation is all non verbal as far as oratory, that which is hearable. It is body language, facial expression and tone of voice that communicates far more by tests that have been done on the topic.
We cant hear the expressions or tone of voice or see body language/facial expressions in a text.
In conversations on the cell or phone, there is actual back and forth conversation, no interruptions and the added benefit of the sound of the voice. Some peoples humor is dry or they can sound so serious that without the facial expression or sound of voice, you may thing they are angry at you when all they are doing is teasing you, trying to be funny. Watch a comedian on stage. A good one is even funnier because they dont just stand there and tell the joke, it is their tone of voice, facial expression and their acting out the joke by the motions of their body that make it funnier.
Getting information back and forth between two people is important. With the comedian on stage, only one is talking to entertain and the no one is talking back in return. But in school, in a job in a family, conversing back and forth in good time and the right way is very important to the health and success of those relationships. But a dating relationship or marriage is even more crucial. Lots of guys can tend to get focused on the task before them so they will only glance at a a text and go back to what they were doing. Guys do know how to prioritize and do multi-tasking, it just differs from how females do it. When not with you face to face, only that which is around him takes his focus and attention whether it is studies, a job, chores, or spending time with one of his male friends. This does not mean that you have any less significance in his life, that you are not as important. The fact he sent something you like for you to look at while you were apart or away from each others presence is the confirmation of how important you are, even when he can't be there or doesnt have the time for a full conversation. A single text isn't always an invitation to have a lengthy conversation.
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