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flirty or friendly, thanks
after I put my money In the slot on the bus, the bus driver said to me thank you I appreciate it just smiling his azz off...he didn't say that to anyone else, everyone else just got a normal thank you. as i got off the bus, I told him have a great day and he just put his head down just smiling and watching me get off the bus and said you have a good day too...was he just being friendly or flirty? he is very nice looking, around 30-35, tall and very cute..i wouldn't mind going on a date with that guy....but im not the type to approach men due to previous bad experiences...this is the first time ive ever seen this driver ....
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Well just using logic, I know I'd be more prone to flirt with someone I find attractive and not at all with someone I don't. I am married and not looking for someone to cheat with. But for many, flirting is fun, even if you don't mean to seriously follow up on it. Its like a fun pastime. Then for others, it's their normal personality and how friendly they are, maybe a bit friendlier with those they'd like to get to know.
So the answer is it could be both. But you can tell about the friendliness part if you get the opportunity to watch him over time. Is he friendly with all every day? Then its probably his personality. If he's singling you out in any way treating you different than anyone else consistently, then he's attracted to you.
This would mean both of you are at the attractions stage of a possible relationship. The next step is getting more time to talk than you can on the bus to see if you are still interested in learning more about him and that is the dating stage. Dating isn't necessarily a commitment though after a while of exploratory dating and falling in love, two people will make a commitment to each other, either to be steady partners, or to marry.
Now you should realize that more talk is needed to discover if you both still like each other.
Not every guy wears a ring,
I know you said you don't approach men due to bad experiences. What you needed to learn f rom your bad experiences is how to spot a bad guy the soonest possible and hon, theres no way to totally avoid giving a bad guy a little of your time in a meet up or a date because at first, most will put their best foot forward. After some time, usually weeks if you see or speak to the other several times a week, you'll catch the other person letting their guard down, doing away with their fake persona and you'll see some things you question. Don't make excuses for the guy, just watch to see if it happens again and if so, leave that relationship.
So if you learned anything, it should help you with any future guys. I'm older with more experience and still I was fooled by many I met on dating site before i met my 2nd husband. Its just part of life. There will be liars and cheaters out there, and people trying to hide their grievious faults, but it all comes out in the end. I usually saw something I didn't like in the first meet up, never going to the dating point. But the longest it took once I knew what to look for as red flags, was the 3rd date with one guy. thats when he showed his true self and blew it with me.
So if you want to see if theres any possibilty with this guy, you have to pursue it. Guys are just as shy about the initial approach as females are. I'd ask him first if he's married or in a commited relationship. If he asks why, you let him know that you are interested in getting a chance to chat with him more than you can on the bus and would like to trade numbers, but you don't want to be horning in on any other relationship he's in. Or if he doesnt ask why, you tell him that in explanation next anyways. If he's in a relationship and turns you down, it'll still make his day to have a female interested. If he's not with anyone, then your interest in him is a lovely compliment and if he's attracted and curious, he'll be open to talking more and say something along the lines. Either you both trade cell numbers right then, or you write a note with yours on it to slip to him as you get off the bus.
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Okay maybe the bus driver was being extra friendly. Or maybe he did find you attractive, with some men you never know and because he is a bus driver, he may just have been being friendly but he didn't do that to anyone else. So maybe he was being flirty.
But something you can do is try to ride his bus again and get his information and then maybe ya'll can talk a bit and learn a little about each other. Then you can know if he is really your type. But if you feel like he was being more friendly than flirty, return the friendliness and maybe you can flirt a little with him,let him know that you find him attractive and that you would be willing to get to know him. If he rejects you or doesn't take the hint, then move on. There are plenty more fish in the sea.
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