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What does he mean when he says, are you jealous in a joking way ? We've been friends for a year and work in same place. We're both flirty. He's also asks when can we go out again but when we do, we always go out with both of our friends. He also says, I want all the women to love me jokingly, I said, I don't, what? Do you want me to, he said of course and we both just smiled. We do flirt and tease. What should I be expecting from his behaviour? He seemed to be coming over trying to have a chat with me a lot too. So, does he like me or is he just flirting? Thanks all
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Ask him! Some people flirt just cus its fun. Some are flirty with everyone and its just one way that shows their open, friendly outgoing personality in their unique way. And some are actually seriously flirting and hope to get a special gal to take interest in return and show it. Since your flirting back hasn't encouraged him to make any steps of getting to know Just You, better...I would tend to guess he's not all that serious... Or he's putting on a brave front but inside is terrified of proceeding with you because you feel really important to him and he doesnt want to mess up by saying or doing the wrong thing so the only way he talks to you is under the guise of flirting cus it feels safe to him.
So the only way for you to know is to ask. How many times have teachers told us in school, that there is no such thing as a stupid question. I think thats true and the result of not asking questions when they should be asked and just guessing or assuming is the dumber thing to do.
Yes, I know its scary to ask really to the point, and direct questions but how else will you know?
So you might try something like, "Hey Joe, I know we flirt often at work and as coworkers we are friends. But I don't think we've ever talked seriously about what we are looking for in a significant other or even our expectations or reasons for looking for someone. I am curious and whenever I interact with a guy the way we do, I really haven't any sure clue whether it is just flirty as friends or if a guy is interested in getting to know me personally better and on to dating for a while to find out. So I think it would be helpful to find a moment we can chat, more seriously and learn a bit more at least for my sake if not yours.
Word it your own way but something like that should work. You aren't putting him on the spot to say he likes you as it truly is a process of attraction first, then spending enough time together to discover if you really still like the person or have decided they're just not your cup of tea.
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