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hi there for the past few days that i havent heard from well hd hasnt been on any social platforn since then exept when he received my msgs yesterday could it be that he might be going through something and when he is ready will talk to me again or is it finally over i feel like im overthink heavy..i just miss him so much and hoping that il hear from him soon..do you think i will??iv decided to stay away and give him some space mayb text hm at the end of the month or next month..
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I think you are over thinking it. It sounds like he needs some time. Its OK to to feel the way you do about him still, but if he doesnt want to be apart of your life anymore then you cant force it. Give it a month or so and just kinda silently watch him. (not like stalker status) but just watching him to see that hes carrying on with his life and that hes gonna be ok. Then after a while you can give yourself closer that hes gonna be fine and you guys just wernt a good match.
Maybe give him some time and then check in on him here and there, and just say that you wanna make sure hes doing well and that your just concerned but that if hes REALLY ok then your happy for him and youll leave him alone. Offer to be there for him if he needs to ever talk about anything, and if he does stay calm, hear him out, dont get emotional, and look at what ever it is hes telling you from a FRIENd view point, not a girlfriend "im emotionally really invested here" view point. does that make sense?
after that let HIM come to YOU.
The other thing is that texting him isnt a good idea, and the only reason i say this is because its WAYY too easy for someone to just NOT answer you. What happens here is you GIVE them the freedom to either not answer or pretend like they never got the messages you sent and just allows them to cut you out of their life if they want, and thats why i dont mess with texting when it comes to really serious stuff.
If you want to address really emotional topics or get his attention so that he CANT ignore you then you need to go see him face to face and say "hey i just wanted to check on you, i got the hint that your not interested, im OK with that but not hearing from you really made me concerned and i thought something bad happened to you"
This will guilt him into giving you SOME sort of answer about his well being. Most people dont want to worry others and WILL make them want to at least say "im ok and everything is fine but...." and this is where they'll give you SOME sort of an answer about how their doing mentally.
dont rely on text messages for everything, they arent reliable when it comes to trying to address important issues that people would rather run from.
good luck.
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