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My Bf ignores me
Hi!I am a girl of 20years and I've been trying to be in a serious relationship but I keep on failing. I am in a relationship for 1 month with a guy who is 24years.I thought he is serious but I was just fooling my self.I love him so much and I told my family about him. my bf don't talk to me and I did nothing wrong .I tried to talk to him but he don't care.I tried to raise this issue to him but he keeps on ignoring him.he dont talk,call,texts or reply nor answer my calls.I don't know what I did to deserve this and I don't know what to do.please help me and give me advice
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He is not interested nor mature enough to know how to stop dating you. So instead of lack of how to break the news or fearing dramatics, he chooses the silent treatment, and no response.
Now if its a case of just a few days of no response, perhaps his phone broke, got lost, a family member died or something unavoidable has got his entire focus for the next couple days. I've heard of girls who text their guy every couple minutes, bombarding him with texts and if that is you, then his actions of silence and no answer is appropriate. When a person can't get thru their own day without constantly talking to the person of focus, it sends the message that they have nothing else to do and no life of their own, that they are needy and need to be entertained and this can scare a guy away. At 20, we rarely know these things and can easily be making these kinds of mistakes ourselves, or the guy doesnt know how to be to the point and break it off. You were dating only a month before he lost interest. That sounds about right to me. It shouldn't take much time dating to discover if a person really interests you beyond the initial attraction stage. Dating is not a commitment stage as so many female seem to think, mostly out of their strong desire to relate to people and especially find one male who is ready to make a commit by simply asking her on a few consecutive dates. This is more a discovery period on the way to becoming a committed couple, a time to learn more about each other, spend time together to see if this is someone you want to spend more time with or not. How do you discover if you like a new food? You have to try it. How do you know how an outfit in the store looks on you? You have to try it on. Dating is the same thing, its trying out the person to see how they fit your life. Are they perfect for what you need and want in your life or lacking somehow or even exhibit hurtful or destructive behavior? So basically hon, I am saying that in your desperate-ness to join the world of dating, its best to learn what things you can do that will help attract the right guy, know how to find Mr. Right, and how to be patient until the right ones comes along, how to be the one in control, going after the guy rather than waiting for one to come after you. Thers much to learn and you're the perfect age to start. If you can't find the information on your own, I am willing to share what I know. Just contact me.
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