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a crush since forever
I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this one guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class(he is in no way shy), but he is so sweet and kind and honest that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite(extremely...) shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together.
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes/often teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he came over to talk to me, and he asked me about why I had been late for class that morning. He has done similar things a number of times in the past.
Also, just to point out, he is straight. I know this for sure. The girls he hangs out with have been his friends for years, they are like sisters to him...
Another problem- I am scared to tell my friends I like him. I told them a couple years ago, but they laughed and told me we would make a really awkward couple (probably because I'm 5'9", and at the time he was super skinny and like 5'3", but he's grown since then). I would love to have their support, but we don't really talk about guys much, and I feel like I've been lying to them for years about this guy..not that I ever lied...I just didn't speak up...
Also, casual out-of-school meetings are difficult because he lives in a different city than I do, although we go to the same school (it's a private school). I can't just casually invite him to do something with me like randomly on a Saturday because he lives like a 45 minute drive away..
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance?
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Found that you sent this to my inbox. I already saw and answered it in the postings for whole group. So go back and look. In short, I said that I was sure he liked you, a guy has to, to seek out a girl to talk specifically to her. As to whether just as a friend or hoping for more, one never can tell at this stage as it takes hanging out together more to find out how much you like each other.
So you need to approach him and ask if he'd like to sit with you at lunch, if you ride the same bus, sit with you there, or hang out at a pizza place. Whether hanging out or dating, both mean same thing, its a period of time one uses to get to know more about a person to see if you still like them or have discovered things that make you no longer like them in that way and if so, you tell them you're moving on. Hanging out and dating are Not a commitment to be a couple, its a discovery period before committing to be bf/gf, or engaged or married. So dont let talking to him be such a scary thing, its only learning more about him by doing lots of talking and spending time together.
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