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Do you think I should wait for her or move on?
I met a girl online the end of last month. We met on okcupid.com, we chatted all night long about ourselves but mainly about our sex life and then we ending up flirting that turn into sexting. At first I thought she was playing me so I didnt give that much effort of wanting to get to know her until she message me the next day at 8am. And then message me again the day after. We spoke for at least week no sexting just small talk.
One day I message her on facebook she read it but no reply. The next day I saw her on okcupid. I sent her "How are you?" She read it but no replied back. I then assumed that she was probably playing me so I ignored her.
Two days later I message her about the first night we spoke questioning her what was the sexting and that I don't sexted anyone unless I am not interested.
She replied back apologizing and told me that she loves our conversations and flirting. she wants to continue getting to know me. She been too busy with work.
I thanked her for her honesty and told her she is welcome to message me anytime.
5 days later she hasn't been online so I message her "Hi" on facebook and she replied back with a huge message telling me she is out of town visiting family and been trying to get that much time off from work. She ended the message with "Kisses my sexy friend".
I know I shouldnt expect much for online dating but I just feel like she is being honest with me then again I am having doubts.
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This sounds so familiar. Wondering if you've written in before about this scenerio. Yes you can expect alot from on line dating...its how I found my 2nd husband. I made sure to advertise only for areas in reasonable driving distance. I used the computer only as a tool to come to know of the existance of a person. Once I talked once or twice, and liked what I got from the little conversation, I pushed to meet in person, take it out of the internet and into reality. If someone is just playing with you, they won't want to meet in person. So send a message asking her. Set a time and a coffee shop in a 2nd message if she doesnt answer your 1st. Then tell her you will be expecting her either show up or let you know if she can't make it. No response and you will stop pursuing her. If she cancels too many in person dates, you will also drop her. Busy is not an excuse here. Not when it comes to finding a partner and possibly love. If a person is really interested in someone, even a busy person will make a potential partner one of their top 3 priorities. Actually, women can tend to make a man their own priority. So no contact, no in person interest on her part. There is nothing else I can tell you. Hopefully shes not the only one whos written you. All else you can do is to spend your time looking at more profiles, and doing searches by interests in common. And writing to other women at the same time. Then if she piddles her time away not contacting you and you find some just as great or better, then, its her loss, your gain.
An aside for you, most women are turned off by men whose major amount of talk is sex the first time around. It is really very rare. So for her to instigate could mean a whole myriad of things, and lots of it my imagination is drumming up is not so good for a healthy relationship. It is very unlikely for a woman to push for sex talk the first time and WANT to send naked pics of herself. Not good...i'd take that as a warning sign unless yu can meet immediately to find out she is not like that. Woman who get paid for online cam sex or in real sex, do use the dating sites on occasion to meet men and reel them in. Think about it, a man is either single and does not get regular sex so it might be easy to convince him to pay for her services.
A married man not happy with wife is out looking for a lady on the side for same reason and is just as easy picking for such a girl. Meet her asap or give up on her!!
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