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How to get someone to think you exciting and maybe like you
K this is such a dumb question but this guy I really like (he's older) and I always try and say or ask random funny things to get him to think I'm exciting and funny, like even if he never likes me that way, as long as he thinks I'm awesome that's okay with me. I'm 16 by the way and okay the guy I like is my teacher. I'm just running out of funny or exciting things to say does anyone have any suggestions?
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I dont see teachers as hating any of their students unless they misbehave greatly. In general, most teacher already like their students and don't need the student to be anything other than their real self in class. Maybe some teachers will have a favorite student or two and usually its due to something they have in common or the student reminds them of a son daughter, niece or nephew. But it is always something that just comes up without the student trying so hard to become teachers pet.
The word you used gives away what your deepeset subconscious feelings are about this, you want him to notice you as a woman, a peer, whether you have realized that yet with your conscious mind. As far as being on friendly terms with a teacher, that is normal. But its a fine line to when one or the other is trying to get the kind of attention from the other that signals this is a peer, a non teacher student relationship.
During teen yearss, this is common for girls. Especially during puberty when she begins changing into a young woman. A young lady has a natural instinct and need to begin to be recognized as a good looking female, and while you may not be thinking anything more like being sexy for him, young females need male approval from a man who is Safe. I get it. Most girls get this need taken care of if they have a good relationship with Dad if they have a father. I remember putting on a new outfit, or getting dressed up for a school dance and asking the family how I looked. It was so great when my own Dad would notice me by stating how I was growing up so quick and looking as pretty as my mom and teasing that he might soon have to beat the guys off. It may sound silly or insignificant to you but your subconscious mind really needs to have this and hear it. If you dont get it from Dad, an older brother, uncle, grandpa are usually next in line and then of course, male teachers, your girlfriends dads, your parents close friends who've seen you grow up. Someone you can feel safe with, knowing they wont do anything inappropriate but just compliment you. Even just admiring looks is enough.
This may be why its so important to you. However, if it feels like you have to put on an act, like plan and rehearse your lines ahead of time as to what you'll say, then you're forcing it and not being yourself in the first place. Take a deep breath and relax. All is not lost. You've just been trying too hard to win his attention. Teachers don't think in terms of their student being exciting, an interesting young person maybe.
Exciting lends more towards a real sexual attraction and wanting to do somethng about it even tho its against the law for anyone over 18 to do that with a minor. Just be yourself, do not put on an act. Its best to learn that now because once you are dating guys, you will want a guy to be open and honest and real with you and its good to be the same for them. When we try to hard to impress or be liked, we put on a truly fake self, nice but still not our own personality cus we think we fall short in the personality department. most people question whether a person will really like them for theirself. the danger in trying too hard to impress and unintentionally getting sucked into being someone not quite ourself, is that when it comes to dating boys, they may actually like the hyped up, fake persona simply because they happen to have something in common and when they get to know the real you, you're different enough to not feel like a good match for them. Dont fall into that trap of being someone you aren't to get someone to like you. If the real you cant think of anything witty, then there's no need for words, just smile, say hi and hope yur having a nice day.
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