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If i'm trying to get him back. Whats do you think i should do? the reason we broke up was because he said right now he wants to live a single life but he sure hope that we'll get back together. I really love him anr I dont want to lose him. So far its been three days since we didnt talk But he has been looking at my snap stories on snapchat everyday? Will the no contact for some certain amount of days work? Help please
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I'm sorry if this came a little late.
I want to understand and maybe it would help you as well to know the reason "why" you want to get him back.
I've spoken to a lot of people who have similar circumstance as you do. And they usually don't even know why they want their partners back. And, I always remind them of one particular thing:
Love is not a good enough reason. Love is actually an unknown entity and has been a sociologically accepted term as a summary of unexplained feelings towards one's partner. Not that I don't believe in it, I just believe that it often misleads people from thinking logically.
If your man's excuse for breaking up with you is "singledom," then how serious is he about this leap of faith?
Also, if he chooses this way of life, shouldn't you think about his priorities? And why you're not one of them? Shouldn't you be at the top of the list?
I admire the fact that you can see through this even if - and I'm saying this because I don't have the same patience as you do - you are technically on the losing end. It takes a lot from a person to be in your situation.
Counting the days will only make the hours, minutes, and seconds longer. I would keep myself busy if I was in your situation. And if he does come back, I'm sure you will be the one choosing if you want him still.
Please don't be blinded about what you may see. You must understand that you are your own master. And you will see things the way you want to see them. Him keeping tabs by looking at your snap stories everyday does not mean anything until he opens his mouth and say it. I know your dilemma. You are left to assume things because he isn't talking to you. It's a price you have to pay.
Regarding your last question if the no-contact for a period of time would work? It's a coin toss. It can really go either way. First, you have to understand that you can not and will never be able to control how he thinks no matter how hard you try. Unless you believe in voodoo.
I always tell people to try to see their worth. People always tend to lose it whenever they get hurt, or whenever they fall in love.
Lastly, ego is going to be your worst enemy. So don't let it control you. We are bound to get hurt, and learn from it. Not use it in the future for other people who might give us our second wind.
I hope this helps.
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