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I have known this girl for many years and I genuinely love her. I dont know wether or not to tell her i love her or not
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Telling someone too early on that you love them if they havent had an opportunity to get to know you well enough to know if they have any feelings towards you, will put the girl at a disadvantage. She may feel uncomfortable being truthful with you.
If you've just known her but never been close friends or spent lots of time together, I advise not saying anything and just letting her know you are interested in getting to know her better as you enjoy her company and ask if she'd like to date you. If she says no, you have your answer, there's no attraction unless the issue is that she is not single and already seeing someone else. In that case, DO NOT Say anything to her because if you do, you can be blamed for their breakup and you dont' want that over your head.
If you have 'loved' her from a distance, meaning you see each other alot in passing, like at school or at work and never talk much, its harder to gauge if one genuinely is in love with a person or 'in love with the idea of being in love'. Just ask her out and get to know her, giving her a chance to know you. After some time, then you can tell her, "I am beginning to have deeper feelings for you." That according to relationship experts is better than blurting out "I love you" first. This way, if she doesnt feel the same, she doesnt feel pressured to say "I love you" in return even though she doesnt feel it, and give you false hope that she really cares for you the same way. If she can say she's beginning to have feelings for you too. thats good. It's like putting feelers out there to test the temperature of the water so to speak. If she responds in the positive to your sharing having deeper feelings for her, then continue to romance her and soon after, when you are both sharing a close moment together, tell her you love her. Good luck.
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