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In love with my best guy friend?
My best friend and I have known each other since the summer. Him and I would always send rap verses to each other and talk . He even helped me with the breakup of my boyfriend and when I was suicidal. Sadly, though, I like him. He found out through a joke his friend told about me liking him which lead me to laughing and turning red. After school, my best guy friend and I were texting and the topic came up and he asked "do you really like me?" I couldn't lie so I said yes. He said it might change his outlook of me and then he started to say he loved me back and I was pretty, then he asked me out and I said yes. So at school we went out for a day, and at the end of the day ended up breaking up because he said he felt like he has rushed it when it wasn't time and that he got excited last night. After that little breakup, we got into a small argument at school . A few days later, he called me gorgeous on a kik group convo . About two weeks later, he started to flirt with me , it lasted for about 5 days and he would always come up to hug me. Then after that 5 days, he only read my kik convo and never responded . And after talent show (which I was in) he never really talked to me until Friday. We didn't hug, we just hi-fived and held hands for a second. Do you think he hates me? Likes me? What can I do to make things normal again?
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Thank you first off for being honest with him. Honesty is the best thing for relationships. He said it might change, not would change his outlook of you. Then he either stated he liked you or loved you. You say the word was love. Perhaps he realized he was speaking before thinking things out and isn't quite sure he's to the love state yet. So he may be embarassed and not willing to talk about or bring up that conversation. You say he's still flirting. So just to keep things straight, a guy doesn't flirt with a girl he hates. So I would say he still likes you.
The missing piece of information is whether the feelings he's always had for you are strictly platonic or has he felt attracted to you romantically/sexually? When people do have those feelings, it does not necessarily mean they are in love yet. they may need more one on one time getting to know the other person to develop those sorts of feelings. He may be just afraid of what you might be expecting from him. So it's going to take a good honest talk between you both to straighten things out. If he dodges talking, write him a nice long letter explaining your side of things and taking the pressure off him by letting him know you would still value his friendship, even if he didn't see you in a romantic way.
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