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What do I do?
Hi there,Love Choice girl here again.
I split with the man I wanted to see because I felt so much pressure and guilt from my family for being with him.I axed our relationship,and have felt terrible,depressed,heartbroken ever since.I want to badly to pick up the phone and say Im sorry,because I really am.I really am sorry.I didnt mean to hurt his feelings.But I have never felt so alone or empty in my life.
What do I do,should I say Im sorry with flowers?
Or just leave it alone.
I miss this guy so much,and its near torture,but I am heavily afraid what my family will do to me,if I go to him,I love my family,but love this guy too.
Im stuck in such an impossible place.
Any suggestions?
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Hi dear. We've chatted back and forth plenty of times on here. As I've said before, since there's no such thing as a magic wand that can make things as they were before, what is done is done and even if you left the family tomorrow and went searching for him to see if he'll forgive you and take you back....things have happened that affected him too. If a guy did this to you, choosing family over you, would you feel a gift of flowers and an apology makes any difference in your life? No, it wouldn't.
I think the reason you want to pick up the phone, maybe self deliver flowers, is because you want to hear his voice, just once again, or see his face, just once again, hoping that little bit would be enough to help you continue on with your life any better without him.
Do you really think that would work? If you do, then you're not as intelligent as I first thought you to be. You would feel better for a short while, and then need your next "Fix" of former boyfriend, just like a drug addict needs their next fix. Just one more time for a drug addict, isn't going to help them stop using and go on with life, drug free.
So what makes you think that just hearing his voice again would help you go on with life just fine without him. You are as hooked to him as a drug addict is to his drugs.
I am not saying this is bad to want to be with him that bad. Just know that the not knowing of what your relationship could have been will haunt you every day of your life, long after your parents got old and died, long after you married someone you could never fully give your heart to, or become an old maid and never married, and you will still feel this way on your death bed with your only hope to see him maybe in Heaven. And thats nothing like the life you could have had with him on earth.
Because you are unable to go against your family...this is what you have to look forward to. This is your choice so you may as well be resigned to feelings tortured for the rest of your life. But that doesnt mean you have to torture him as well by bringing up things, making contact. Leave him be so he can heal, and go on to meet, fall in love with someone who is willing to be with him at any cost.
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