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missing my ex
19/m
So I started college about a month ago... up until then I was single and wasnt missing my ex girlfriend. It's now been a month and more and more I miss my ex girlfriend.
I dated her last fall and it lasted only a short time, then in the summer we kinda dated, we definitely had a thing and were intimate. Out of nowhere she ended things, which I respect, but I could kind of tell it was coming. I have always been able to kind of tell when someone has lost interest or is acting weird when in a relationship with me. So I knew kind of.
But I didnt miss her for about a month... I still had time left in summer so I don't know why I never missed her but being here at college I miss her more and more every day. I always think back to things that we did or memories we had. Things like that.
I'm wondering why I would be missing her? What can I do to get over missing her?
I already struggle with making friends and I am struggling with other parts of life so the added thoughts of her in my life just dont help.
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I feel like the only way you can get over your ex girlfriend is being busy. You say you have no friends, so why not focus on making friends, or focus on doing better in school. Your best friend right now is Time, time will help you get over her, maybe not completely but enough to let you get on with your life.
Remember to focus on bettering the parts of your life that you feel your struggling on, and I hope that everything turns out well!
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You say you struggle with making friends. Not having anyone to relate to, even just buddies can make a person feel lonely and when lonely we are more prone to think of our past friends, friends who moved away, relationship partners who broke up and moved on...because they are familiar and people we're already comfortable with.
For breakups, i have never heard yet of any way to get over the hurt or the missing of a partner. About the only thing that helps is the passage of time. I know, not what you want to hear.
Do you know why she lost interest. You sensed it. But thats not good enough...when the purpose of dating is to learn what you like and don't like about females and what they like and don't like about you.
If adjustments can be made in you...that would help in a future relationship, wouldn't you want to know?
If she gives you a real petty answer and you can tell it's far fetched, not honest truth, or you know that isnt something you did wrong, then don't pay it any mind.
Its easier to handle the "other parts of life" we struggle with if we have people we are close to in life who really understand us. and that is what you dont have. Sometimes it is easier to stop missing someone by becoming occcupied with starting a new friendship or dating relationship.
if you are shy, you already know how hard it is to make new friends. So look for shy girls and befriend them cus you have a plus that the more confident guys dont have, you will be able to "get her", to know how she feels and what she struggles with to make friends.
If I've misunderstood, and your issue is something entirely different, let me know and I'll try again to help.
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