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I want to spend my future with a boy and settle down and have children later on in life i am 17 years old and want to be with him what's the best way of approaching this
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I am assuming, since you do not say, that you have a particular young man in mind. While I admire your desire and fortitude to be planning ahead you still have a great deal of living and maturing to do before these plans should come to fruition.
Being 17 you have either just graduated from High School or will be going into your senior year in September. You should be looking at continuing your education at College which means you have at a minimum 4 or 5 years of schooling ahead of you.
Putting marriage into the equation at this time is something that I would not recommend. Rarely do high school romances turn into life long love affairs. To skip college so that you and the boy you would like to be your husband can marry is not the best choice to make.
In order to have the life you have now or a better life than what your parents have been able to supply; which is the American Dream. Now more than ever before a College Educations with advanced degrees are needed.
If you do go off to college you will find that absence does not make the heart grow fonder. College forces us to mature in different ways based on the college we attend and the course of study we under take. This is good as we all need to mature in our own way. This is also what is meant by the saying you can never go home again.
Home is two things; it is the physical place you can always return too. It is also the place of our childhood the place of our memories which we can only return to in our thoughts and minds but never really return too as we grow and mature.
I have purposely taken the long way around to answer your question as it was a bit open ended. In order to approach someone about marriage for one thing means you both have to be equal in your love for one another.
For a boy of your age I would be very leery of his actual love for you as boys your age confuse love for lust. A 17 year old boy may say he loves you, he may even say he wants to marry you. You have to take what he says with a certain amount of mistrust for primarily a 17 year old boy will say what he needs to say to get you in bed and into your pants.
My advice is to continue to prepare yourself for the day when the absolute Mr. Right comes along. For now though you need to experience more of life if you want to have a successful marriage. You need to complete your education so you can have the American Dream.
When the time is right you will not have to write anyone on how to approach someone.
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