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Online Dating
19/f
So I've written before.
Well I've been talking to a few nice guys. But the ones I seem to enjoy talking to live about an hour away. The thing is, I wouldn't mind meeting half way and just get like coffee or something for like an hour.
I don't feel comfortable driving all the way to where they live or have them drive all the way here.
But one guy I've been talking to asked me if I was into cars. I said, "Not really, I don't know much about them." And he wanted to take me to some car show thing even though I wasn't that interested. But I said we can just meet for coffee. But then he said he doesn't like coffee. Anyways, I wouldn't have mind going to the car show thing, but it would be the first time meeting him and I'd only want to hang out for like an hour. I told him that I just didn't feel comfortable with it because it is the first time meeting and all that. He just kept asking why.
Another guy I was talking to lives an hour away and wanted to take me to the beach, but that's an hour away too. And I don't want to be alone with a guy in their car when I don't really know them. I just told him we should do something simple. He told me it is simple. I told him I just wanted to be safe and all that and thought he'd understand. But he didn't seem to understand that.
What is with this? Like each guy wants to go to the beach but that means being in their car. And I thought most guys would understand a girl would be concerned for her safety?
Maybe I'm just frustrated.
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First meet with internet dating to me is not supposed to be a scenic place or somewhere with distractions such as looking at old cars instead of one on one chat. I always met at a place conducive to conversation. I chose coffee shops but then there was no long distance like an hour away for any of us. If a guy was really willing to meet, he could by a chai tea or Italian soda at a Starbucks or other coffee shop. But meeting anywhere that there are lots of people and not stuff for sight seeing will work. The guy should be accomodating for the girl so she is comfortable with a meeting place. If you meet at a restaurant parking lot and then follow him in your car to another populated area with lots of people around, thats another way to stay safe. Tell the guy you are doing so to be safe. If he can't understand that or takes offense, you can strike him off the list. Its a guy who will take offense easily no matter what if he can't put himself in your shoes and understand. If you are talking to guys around your age, perhaps most of them haven't figured out yet how to be accomodating and understanding. Keep trying. I was online looking a couple years before I met my sweetie. Good luck.
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