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It hurts so bad..
I thought I was in a good relationship with a guy I really believed to be my soul mate.. We have dated for one and a half years now.
I just came off the phone with his baby's mum. She felt that because he wasn't going to own up to it,then she should tell me other than me finding out from other random people. I was just in shock. He denied responsibility for the pregnancy and it turns out that he was with her the same time he was with me,and he lied to me alot of those times. The child is now one year old and he has never mentioned it to me. She broke the news to his mum because he also wasn't going to tell her.
I am a person who is slow to anger,and so it really hasn't dawned on me yet. But the more I think of it,the more I'm conflicted. I just want to shut him off completely from my life and have nothing to do with him. It's just so hard for me to believe that someone I love could do that to someone else.
I need your help on having those difficult conversations. As it is I just want to shut him off. I've found out about it less than an hour ago and I'm slowly coming to terms with it.
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He cheated on you and denied having any responsibility for a child. What makes you think he won't do the same to you?
You need to break up with him. He sounds like a piece of shit, and you should be shutting him out of your life. If you believe that he's nonviolent, drive to his house and tell him what you know, and that you can no longer see him. Then stop taking his calls.
He will try to call you. He will try to get back together with you. He sounds like the deranged kind of douche that will attempt to manipulate the shit out of you until you give in. Don't let it happen. Right now, you need to share this news with a few trusted people that you can lean on and will hold you accountable if you attempt to get back with this scum. Let them be your support system and leave this asshole behind.
Do not try to reason with him and weigh your options. If he's shitty to the child he already has and the woman he had it with, he will act similarly to you should your relationship advance to that point. Hightail it the fuck out of there before it can.
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hey, i understand your anger, have you considered the reasons as to why he hasn't said anything to you? maybe he is scared to be a father, maybe he is scared to be judged about being a good or bad father, maybe he was ashamed to tell you and his mother incase you thought any different of him. im not sticking up for him im just saying take those into consideration.
talk to him about it all first let him tell you whats gone on and you can tell him how it has made you feel and then you need to decide on what you are going to do split or stay together?
if you stay together are you going to support him with seeing his child?
like i said before i understand your angry i would be to but as a step mom who has full custody of my ex's kid think bout if you was a mom to kid and he was in that situation how would you want the situation to be dealt with, how would you feel?
if you have any specific questions you would like to ask private message me on here i will be happy to help
and i hope this has helped you somewhat
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