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Hey you answered my question and wanted to know more so i figured it'd be easier to ask you
We're both 16
This is what she said
FINALLY!! Jack i don't mean to sound cocky but i've known for a very long time that you've liked me, but has that affected the way i am around you NO OFC NOT!!! now that you have told me is that going to make things awkward between us deffo not, nothing is going to change between us!! Honest truth, if Will wasn't in the picture Jack things would be soooo different and ngl i probably would be with you, but he is in the picture and im sorry but i really like him! i will always have feeling for you Jack even when i'm a cripple and married i'll still have these feelings but i just think we should keep what we've got now!! nothing will change though now you've told me okay, i promise!!
We've talked about what happened and she is still kinda clueless to the statues of our relationship and she actually said "We act like we're together"soo i really dont know anymore
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Yes, I remember answering on the first question. Its an unfortunate thing but she does seem clueless and immature but then many teens are, it comes with the territory. It is torture for those few teens whose brains have matured faster if they can't find friends or dates who are at their level of cognitive ability and maturity.
If I remember, she is also the one who talks about always feeling you will be like her husband...your private joke thing. If you are one of those who is maturing faster mentally, you put yourself through torture hanging around waiting for her to come to her senses. She may never be fair to you and just lead you on and play with your emotions. Some girls are like that. And then there are others who would treat you really well and not play mind games with you.
Being its a female we're talking about, I can't say if its hormone related, this behavior of hers but theres nothing you can do to change that either. I know your heart is set on her. First time love is special but not as special as if it was reciprocated. Right now, its one sided, just what you feel. You won't know how special it is to have a girl who feels the same about you back.
I can tell you that time will change how you feel about someone who can't love you back. Happened to me between my divorce and finding the man I married as number two. Had my heart broken. Years later after running into him when I had my new husband, I realised those deep feelings I had that caused such heart ache when he said he couldn't reciprocate them, were no longer there. I would probably still enjoy his company as a friend, hanging out with me and hubby but nope, those strong feelings I had were gone.
Acting is just that, an act, not reality. So if she feels she just acts like you two are together as a couple, she is only playacting at it, not serious. So don't put your hopes up because of her acting ability. Perhaps she should try out for the drama team if she's so convincing..hahaha.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. You honestly tried talking to her again and got no where. From this point on, it would be a waste of your time to wait around hoping she changes her mind. If you think you may marry some day, your time between now and then is probably close to 10 years away if not a little more.
Your time would be better spent entering the dating scene and learning what you like anddont like from all the different personalities. And later when you are old enough to marry, be sure you and her are also on the same wave length as far as not just romance but sex. You dont' want to end up with someone who wants sex way less or way more than you feel is normal or you are comfortable with, and like the same kinds of things. Right now is the time to explore personality traits and what you like and dont like in women. Don't waste the time pining over someone. Just make a list of the things you do like about her and look for that in the next girl but always look to improve on each dating relationship by learning from the last. Even tho you and her didnt date, you did learn some things so they still count on your list. You'll also want a written or mental list on the things you don't like about a girl like insincereity, playing mind games, stringing a guy along, saying things one doesnt mean. You get the picture. The breakup and moving on stage in any relationship is hard but the ultimate goal is finding your long term or life long partner and that will be easier to do if you learn from the bad parts of one relationship, keeping the good parts in mind for the next and improve as I said with each relationship the quality of girl that you date. It takes patience to find the right one. People tend to put up a false front and try to impress a person when they first meet and then after a couple weeks let their real self show. So dont give up, theres a special girl out there for you.
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