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Curioustiy.
Hi everyone, I have been going through something and i wanted to get some of your opinions. Me and my ex broke up a while ago because of something in our relationship we didn't think the same about (theres more to it, but thats not important right now) When we were together, i used to like randomly ask him "why dont you ever talk to my sister? i mean write her see how she is and be friendly" and he would be like "if she wants to ask about me she can, why do i have to? " he was honestly kind of arrogant and thats the way he thought about things, not because he was an ass or anything. Anyways, ever since we broke up, hes been texting her and calling her asking where she is all the time, and when she tells him shes somewhere he asks with who, if im not there he doesnt come but if i am he ends up coming and it gets really awkward (since we only say hi how are you, but were not really friends) now he usually writes her asking what her plans are, and then just ignores half way through after he asks her who shes with and my name isnt mentioned. ( Now, he knows that me and my sister are really close, even when we'd have some problems she was always the one helping us fix it and he'd always call her and ask for me if i wasn't answering my phone, so the fact that he is "into her" is out of the questions because that is not the situation at all) My question is, does this mean he misses me or wants to see me somehow again? after the break up we saw each other a few times and we'd exchange eye contact but we haven't seen each other in a while and i think that's why he keeps contacting her, so he doesn't feel like hes loosing touch with my family or that he doesn't want to burn any bridges. Maybe im looking too much into it, but id say i was if he had been close friends with her while we were together but he was not. Has anyone ever done this when they were missing an ex? Thank you all for taking the time to read this :)
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Well, you know what they say about curiousity...it killed the cat. What is curiousity? Careful inquisitive thinking such as exploration, investigation, and learning. It means you want to learn something about your situation with you sis and ex. You want to gain a clearer picture of what is going on. Once you do know what is going on, do you know what difference it will make to you?
Whether you learn something positive or negative, it is going to matter what he does and why he's doing it? I wouldn't think so, as you did say he was an ex. Perhaps subconsciously, in your mind you can't let him go or somehow it's not over in your mind so that is why you can't keep thinking about him and hidden meanings to every little action he takes and does. The thing about trying to overthink what a guys intentions or meaning are behind what he says and does are that women often guess wrong when leaving it up to their imagination or thoughts. Best thing to do if you want to know whats up is ask him.
The part of you that is going to have the hardest time letting go is your subconscious mind because that is where our emotions and feelings dwell. Your conscious mind may have valid reasons why you believe the relationship wont work and why you broke up but it takes the subconscious a much longer time to catch on due to feelings that pull at heart strings. If its better that he is out of your life as a romantic partner, then eventually the rest of you will catch up with that fact. Just give it time.
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