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Too young to date
I am 15 male and i'm a devout christian i've never had a girlfriend i'm not sure if i'm ready yet that may sound strange to some teenagers of today but i want to wait to find the right girl someone who has similiar beliefs i want to continue to devote my life to god and wait for the right girl there's nothing wrong with waiting till you are older?
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Well hon....you didn't exactly ask a question. So I have to guess here that perhaps you want our opinions on whether or not we feel it's okay to wait until older to date a girl.
Yes, it's perfectly fine to wait until older. I know there are teens Christian and not, who will not date in High school and wait until they graduate. They all have their own reasons which include yours for one, and others, they see nothing but a bunch of drama and immature kids dating and breaking up changing girlfriends/boyfriends almost as often as one changes socks.
Have you given thought to if you are "waiting" for the right girl, how you will know if she is the "right" girl? Hopefully the fact that she is also a Christian isn't the only requirement. Because...frankly, that is not enough.
I have seen so many couples in the church marry where that was their only requirement. They never spent the time to get to know if they had anything else in common.
Lets put it this way: You are not bestfriends with every guy at church, friendly towards them yes but not bestfriends. And why? Because there is something special beyond the fact that you both believe in Jesus, you have things in common, a commaraderie, a real deep care for how the other is doing, you like each others humor and making each other laugh and have fun, and being there for your best friends when they are having a rough time, giving your support, and have lots of interests in common.
All this and more is the same when it comes to the person you want to wait to marry. However, because we're talking about the opposite sex here, you get an added bonus, you will be able to make love to that someone special.
Just be sure before you marry, even though you don't have sex, that both of you feel great desire and passion for each other. Why? Because I saw 2 marriages annulled in my church, because when the story got out, they had never kissed or even held hands before their wedding day. Many others tried by sheer willpower to make it work but there wasn't any attraction and none ever developed. I know soo many couples with kids who after having a couple kids, never had sex for the rest of their life. I was mismatched sexually also with my ex. Stayed 30 years before I left.
The sexual union is just as important as being a match emotionally as friends, and spiritually as believers...trust me on this. Blessings to you for your future.
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