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I love my "Aunt" in that way
So I love this girl. When I say love I mean love. I constantly think about her (almost everyday) and think about how perfect she is. But, she's my "aunt". Known her my whole life as an aunt but she is my moms best friend since 1980. But anyway, when I went to visit her up in Colorado with my family she flirted with me the entire time. Hugging me constantly, rubbing, holding hands for a bit, winking, and more. And at the time she was married to her husband of about 10 years. But she would never show these signs in front of her hubby. Anyway, every time we talked her eyes would sparkle with her smiling and intently listening, and if we were in a group of people she would always look at me and smile at me throughout the conversation. This was in the summer of 2013. Six months later, in January of this year, she came down to where we live and a lot happened during that 6 month period. She left her husband (can't help but think that I helped that cause a little bit), she moved to Kentucky, and is living with her new boyfriend. But again, during her three week stay she still flirted with me but not the same as usual. She did it with less passion, less force I guess. She still seemed passionate but not to the same degree as before. We didn't get to see each other as much but she stilled showed me the same exact signs. After she left I got super sad for about a month because I missed her so much. I laid in bed for hours, multiple times, just being sad and thinking about her. I haven't talked to her since but that's just because I don't know exactly what to say. I don't know if I should flirt, be normal, or what and plus its just going to make me sad again because I won't be able to see her for however long. I don't want her to go and saying that I was hardcore flirting with her to my mom or grandparents. How do I approach this? I am almost 17, male. She is almost 41, female.
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I can't say why she did the obvious flirting with you but the fact she got divorced recently at her age, makes me wonder if she was the 'neglected wife' and totally starved for attention and affection, or something else was going on. It's entirely possible that she has some major issues within her self to deal with which she is choosing not to take care of and those kinds of things can eventually break up a marriage.
Sorry to burst your bubble. I know it feels great to be paid attention but she was only thinking of herself when she did what she did, not the fact that she was taking advantage of and stirring up a teen male who would not be legally able to do anything with her even if he wanted and if she was available. Maybe she targeted you just Because she felt you were 'safe' feeling you would be too flattered and sexually carried away to say anything about this.
An adult woman who so desperately needs validation as a female that she would chose a 'teen' boy to get it from is just not normal dear.
I think its more likely that you are 'in lust' with her rather than 'in love' with her. In a normal loving relationship, there is a flow of communication and feelings with your partner, you have not had that yet. You say nothing about her telling you that she is in love with you and wants more than just flirting with you. Her signals as you call them are not signs of love or affection, they are only signs of attraction.
Flirting does not a relationship make.
So in answer as to what you should do, Yes...you should flirt. You've had plenty of lessons from her and know how now, so go flirt with girls your own age.
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