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my crush likes my best friend...I need HELP.
My name is Courtney,and i'm 17 years old. So, I can't seem to get over my crush that i've had for a while. I got this crush when I met him in my schools drama program. I have completely fallen for him, and I know for a fact that he likes my best friend (basically my sister). He gave her a chocolate rose on Valentines Day, and wants to go to prom with her. It totally breaks my heart.
I am so frustrated because we are actually friends, and even worse, WE PLAY A COUPLE IN THE PLAY. every time I try to shake off the crush, we do something adorable in the play and I fall right back into it again. I don't know what to do about this whole situation and I have no one to talk to.
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Hey Courtney,
I totally know what you mean, when you have a crush, that person is always on your mind and it can get so frustrating especially being in a situation like yours!
Honestly, it must be pretty hard knowing that he likes somebody so close to you but stay strong, that feeling is temporary and will go away =)
The fact that you guys play a couple in the play probably makes it feel even more frustrating for you, because you sort yourself out and put yourself in a different mindset but then when you're in front of him, it all changes and goes back to how much you're in to him. It's a tough one to deal with, but try not to over-think it, don't let it take over your whole mind. If you can, try to talk to your best friend about it, trust me you'll feel better letting her know.
Try to focus on the play itself, acting is all about forgetting your situation and getting in to the mind of another character. Re-assure yourself, and within time, this will all die down and you'll get back to your old self in no time =)
If you need any more advice, you can Email me at advice.always1@gmail.com for a faster reply, hope I helped =)
Take care!
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You have a few options, you can either tell your friend so she realises that you're hurting inside and you can try to work through it with her.
You could tell him that you like him but i don't think you like the sound of this idea.
Or you can grin and bare it until you move on or he moves on.
Overall you might be able to work round it but either way good luck!
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Hi dear. To me, crushing implies that someone is crazy about another but has done nothing to give a clue to that person that they have feelings for them that are entirely different than feelings for just a friend.
If this is the case, then you are in this situation, kind of like in limbo...because of your inaction.
I know it's scary to be that open and share how you feel if he might not feel the same back. However, you are experiencing one of the consequences and it doesnt feel any better.
If you did talk to him long ago and he was interested back, it would be you going to the prom.
If you did talk to him and he said he wasnt intereested. It may hurt but doesnt leave you wondering what if when he dates and takes your friend to prom.
If you never say anything, and once upon a time he was crazy about you but you showed no signs of being interested in him so he thought you weren't into him and therefore started looking elsewhere, you'd never know and wonder the rest of your life.
Life is about taking chances instead of being timid. The Chances are that sometimes it'll turn out good and sometimes not. But choosing to not take a risk and talk to someone you are crushing on guarantees a 100% chance of it not happening.
At this point, it would be cruel to rock the boat with prom coming up. Let him take her to the prom. If you find enough guts to talk to him, do so after prom. The reason I state after prom is that in case he does have or did have feelings for you he'd be tempted to break his prom date with her, then feel like a heel cus thats bad manners, or go through with it and be miserable now knowing how you and he feel about each other.
Hope this helps a bit. If you need ideas of what to say and are serious about it, write me again after prom.
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