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HELP ME
I was in love with a girl. I do still now. But, i cant feel the same things I felt before. I love her.I need her.not now, but in the future as my wife , coz she loves me then my mother , she cares for me..i can't help it. i want to enjoy my college days like my friends does. I want hangout with them . but I can't..please help me in this regards.
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Your wording of letter is confusing to me. I have no idea what loving some girl and that girl loving you or your mother taking care of you or her liking your mom has to do with hanging out with college friends. I don't understand what prevents you from doing so?
You say you love her but dont feel the same things as before. If before you didn't feel love but now do...isn't that a good thing, nothing to be concerned about. I have no other idea what else you might have felt before other than love that has you concerned. The past is the past, only be concerned about the present.
She cares for you...good, so she returns the same love feelings you have. Many people meet in college and fall in love. That doesn't mean you dont enjoy college all of a sudden. If anything, having a sweetheart should make college more fun.
Unless you are confused over how you feel about her and want to date other girls in college. If you and her have promised to be each others girlfriend and boyfriend and date each other...then focus on her, not other girls you arent free to date. YOu date to find out enough about a person to realize whether this is someone you can see yourself being with lifelong as their partner. If you made a commitment and changed your mind, then tell her so. Don't waste her time. If you'd rather date around cus you feel she's not the one so you need to keep looking, then do so. Just because one person is single in college doesnt mean they are enjoying themselves more. So stay with her if she's the one, and go hang with your friends at times too. Just be sure to make her one of your top priorities, schoolwork is one obviously, your buddies are number 2 and she is the third priority.
Girls tend to make a boy the ONLY priority in their life and expect the same from guys. You'll need to explain to her that you like other males, can juggle several priorities at the same time. So tonight is her night with you, and tomorrow you will go hang out with your buddies.
If she can't be okay with that, then she has a stranglehold on you, is too needy, doesnt have a life of her own and wants to make You, her life. That is a very disfunctional person and does not make a good dating partner or life long partner.
These are my best guesses as to what you actually were asking.
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