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what should I wear on my date Sunday ?
I am a 24 year old female and I have a date with this guy I have like for a long time now and he finally asked me out and I want to look my best but I don't really have a lot a clothes to wear and I only have $20.00 to spend right now and I won't get more money until Monday so I can spend much money on an outfit for the date . we are going to church first and then going to my house to hang out because he wants to meet my family before we start officially dating because he says he is old fashioned even though he is 25 he was raised this way that he is suppose to go to the girls house and meet their family before he goes out on a date with her to hangout .
Here are some out fits that I have planned that I could wear and I just wanted some opinions on what every one thinks that I should wear :
1 . I have some black leggins that I could wear with a black long sleeved shirt that's kind of low cut but I could wear a pink undershirt underneath to fix that problem and my cousin is going to let me borrow some black boots to go with it if I decide to wear that . would that be to much black on the first date ?
2. I also have some blue jeans with silver rine stones on the pockets of the jeans they arn't missy me's but they look kind of like those and I was thinking if I wear those I could wear my blue long sleeved shirt with the jeans but the sleeves are see through and I could also wear the black boots with that out fit that my cousins going to let me borrow . with the sleeves being see through show to much for church and the top shows my back but I could wear a black undershirt underneath to fix that problem .
3. I have a white sleeveless sund dress but since it is winter time I am afraid it would be to cold for the dress amd I wouldn't have any shoes to match because the only other pairs of shoes I own besides the black boots that my cousins going to let me borrow are tennis shoes and I don't think the boots would go with the dress and I know for a fact that tennis shoes won't go with dress i won't even try that .
4. I have 3 pairs of some more blues jeans but they don't have any kind of design on the back of them they are just plain blue jeans and I have several t-shirts that I could wear.
5. I also have 2 pairs of black denimn skinny jeans that I could wear but I don't know what top I should wear with them and I don't know weather I should wear the black boots or my pink and black tennis shoes with the skinny jeans please help me decide on what to wear on my date any opions are greatly appreciated thanks for everyones help in advance.
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I used to attend church, have been in several different types. Some churches are naturally cool about dress code, as long as clean and not torn, jeans and tee are acceptable. Others may say anything is fine but inwardly expect higher standards of dress with the women wearing only dresses that are respectable, no jeans, etc... and will treat you snobbishly if you dont meet expectations.
You might ask the boyfriend what women wear to his particular church.
Some churches are also against smoking or anything that might "disgrace the temple of God", refering to our bodies as the temple of the HOly Spirit.
So you might also ask him right away exactly how he believes. If you haven't followed any belief in particular yourself, he may be hoping you will adopt his. This may or may not become a deal breaker for either of you if he or church wants you to conform to their wishes and you do not and should not change who you are to meet his or their expectations.
Just a warning, because I got sucked into people pleasing that way, trying to change who I was to please the husband but then the church didnt approve of ways I dressed so I had to be one person for church and another for husband and deep down I was not happy. End result, the husband ended up not happy with me.
As to what to wear- -be yourself!
Go with what you are most comfortable wearing.
Since you have mostly leggings and pants, wear whichever pair you like. Jeans will go with just about anything and the tops you wear can be casual or you can wear a dressy fancy top with jeans, thats also a nice look. If you have nothing dressy in a top that is appropriate for keeping warm and comfortable in winter, then pop into a 2nd hand store. Christmassy type tops will be singled out and on display this time of year.
If you do choose to buy a fancy top, then wear the boots or see if you can find a pair of dress shoes 2nd hand also. While that sounds icky, I have found many a pair that someone bought and after wearing twice didnt like the feel and donated the footwear and the sole and heel were not worn down yet.
This guy is interested in you, and didn't have to be impressed by the 'wrappings'. If he is really into you, that will include your personal style and tastes as well. The moment he begins to suggest you try something different or the church does, and you decide to listen to them, you are changing who you are to please someone else. Never change who you are to please others.
If you wear makeup, use it the same as you always do, no changes cus you want to be you. Same for the hair. Wear it as you always do, covering your ears. No need to make it really glamorous looking like for a bride in her wedding. If you find yourself fussing too much over how you look and worried about impressions you're gonna make, you're going about it the wrong way. No one should judge you for how you look.
How long can you go without a cigarette, will you need to have a puff directly before entering the church or right upon exiting? If so, you might say, "Since I have heard some churches disapprove of smoking, I want you to know that I do and I am pretty addicted. I'll probably want to smoke right before I enter the building and need one again right after its over. Is this going to be a problem? If you don't have that strong an addiction and can go for a while, then obviously theres nothing to worry about as far as church is concerned. If you and he are spending all day together from church directly to see the parents, then somewhere in there you're going to need to have a smoke and if he sees you smoke there while doing the old fashioned things to meet the parents before dating you, then if the smoking is a deal breaker issue for him, he may feel quite awkward to be there to gain their approval to date you when now he's changed his mind. Hopefully he's not that shallow. I knew quite a lot of really sweet people attending church who were smokers so he may be cool with that.
Only you know what things he might have issues with and since you mentioned smoking, your gut hunch is that it might be a good idea to bring that up now. The sooner, the better. But not just smoking issue, have that discussion on beliefs, his, yours or the lack of. Can there be an acceptance of each other even with difference in beliefs or is his way...the only way and all others are wrong. You don't want to get mixed up in willingly joining a group who is so narrow minded. And the two of you if committed to being together may have to decide what church or belief is a better fit for the both of you. Good luck dear
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