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I need help in moving on after abortion
I have been friends with a guy for the past year, and he led me on, and we hooked up. Later I found out it was all a lie, and we had a falling out. However, found out that I was pregnant and went through an abortion. I told him later on, but he already had a new girlfriend. Now, we are not on speaking terms because he can't 'face' me. I miss him, because he was a good friend, and I don't want to lose that. I need help in moving on and letting go.
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Your subconscious mind is the mind that has attachments to him and doesnt want to let go cus the subc. mind is where all our emotions and feelings reside. Our awake/conscious mind tries to make choices based on rational, factual and experienced info. So your 2 minds may be at odds with each other.
From what I gather, it sounds like he pretended to be in love with you to get sex and later you discovered he wasn't interested in you and broke up. since you wont tolerate that treatment, that tells me you want unconditional love, you want a guy who will earn your trust, you want honesty, you want someone who'll be with you through thick and thin, you want someone that you can talk to, who isn't afraid to admit when they were in the wrong, someone able to face you and ask for forgiveness and really mean it.
And that to me sounds like a best friend. For many couples, their mate is their best friend. thats what you are looking for in a guy right?
Your subc. mind with the emotions and feelings is looking through rose colored glass when its says "He was a good friend".
Because according to what I am guessing you are wanting in a guy, he doesnt come close to be a 'good' friend. The truth is that he was a bad friend. Yes, it sounds like an oxymoron because a true friend wouldn't treat someone like he did, which means in your mind, you considered him a friend, but in reality, he never was a friend just an aquaintance who used you. Once you are able to put into perspective exactly where he falls in status, that should help you in letting go, that and letting time go by.
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