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Hello, I'm the girl you responded to about being hurt. You're right. I never get the attention I want. My home life is terrible. My love life is worse. And school is pretty bad. I'm only 16 and I've been through alot of stuff. Perhaps if you have a kik I could tell you my story.
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Hello,
Thanks for writing back to me. I'm not sure what a kik is or if that is typo. The best way for us to communicate, in fact the only way for us to communicate, is through this site. As far as I know there is no restriction on how much you choses to write.
I understand what it is like to be 16 and feel as you seem to feel. This is no reason to hurt yourself. In fact while it will get you the attention you crave it may also get you the kind of attention you don't want. As I said yesterday someone who intentionally hurts themselves could end up in a hospital for the mentally ill.
You are not mentally ill, you are in many respects a normal 16 year old girl. You are possibly the younger or middle child of the family who most often feels as you do. You are also a female going through puberty. Puberty for a female is much tougher than it is for a boy.
So many things happen to a girl going through puberty that at times it is just overwhelming. This does not include the powerful hormonal changes and the effect they have on you which just adds more confusion.
The thing about children that we as parents really don't learn until we reach my age is that you guys don't come with handbooks like a new car. We tend to learn on the job. Once we reach my age and have raised our children we are then fully qualified to be parents. As grandparents our job now is to help you and your parents over these rough spots. Part of the reason we see things more clearly now at our age is we are more secure in our lives then we were when we were raising your parents.
We don't have the worries you parents have. We don't have all the stressors that young parents have. We have the time to sort through these things that we didn't have when we were your parents age.
I don't really believe you are unloved or unwanted. This is how you are perceiving things. Since perception is real then it is real to you and this is where the true problem is.
So take your time and in a succinct manner write and tell me what is going on in your life. Once I hear your side of what you are perceiving I can offer suggestions as to a better way to help yourself. But please do not do anything to hurt yourself.
As advisors we are not to concerned with grammar or spelling but; we do appreciate sentence and paragraph structure. In changing paragraphs this program requires you to double space in order to separate the paragraphs. The only reason behind requesting good sentence and paragraph structure is it makes it easier for us to read, especially for us older folks.
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